Thanksgiving is ruined

[Kookookrazy]

I do not have a gambling addiction.I rarely go gambling maybe once every couple of months as a treat .I can not go for long stretches but gambling DOES bring me joy and a temporary escape. When I do gamble I bring no more than $140 and i play penny slots ...for the escape and the fun.Afterwards ill have a meal ...it makes me feel alive.My life is so bleek and dreary thats the only thing I do for fun.

[Anonymous 6]

You say parenting classes can't teach you anything, but you're clearly floundering. Honestly it sounds like you don't want to look into parenting classes because you don't want to be told you're not being a good mom. You're setting them up for further conflict by babying her (the person who started the conflict) while icing him out.

[Bubelah]

Your "obedient" daughter is a button-pusher and needs to be punished for it
How did your son's appointment with the doctor go today?

[Anonymous 2]

My kiddo once had a melt down in the middle of my place of business because I wouldn’t give him what he wanted. He literally went off the rails. “Ruined” a perfectly good day. My spouse had to leave his office to retrieve him and take him home. Did I need to run away and leave? No, because I am the parent.

As for what your children deserve and what they are doing are 2 separate issues. Community college isn’t a university. Nothing wrong with it but label it what it is.

You claim you can’t work because your children are autistic. Now if that is the case then no, they won’t likely be self sufficient.

I like many others have a LONG memory. So try to keep the stories straight and we won’t have to call you out on your BS.

The odds of your children moving out and living on their own is slim to none. Let’s be honest. Community college isn’t “university”. Therefore, parenting classes for you would be helpful. You would learn how to handle every day behaviors and these outbursts both.

As for your later comment of “going to treat yourself”. Oh my lord…you are an idiot. You don’t leave two colitis children home alone while you go gamble and stuff your face. Finally, what are you treating yourself for? Did you get a job? Did you enroll in school? What? A treat is a once I’m a whole, not an “oh I’m bored“

Dd is already in therapy.Ds refuses therapy I already tried with him I took him to appointments filed out questionaires etc and he refused.He insisted he's not depressed ,not angry etc.He refused to talk there is nothing I can do on that front.

Its too late for parenting classes dd is almost 18 she's an honor roll student ,obedient child she is going off to university in a few months .Ds is more behind intellectually but he is also doing very well in school and he usually is not a problem at home he does what i ask/say idk what happened today and what made him snap but this is an outlier ...this is not his usual behavior.

Ds is 15 what could a parenting class teach me? My kids are almost adults.

I dont think im a great parent but im not the worst either.

They will be self sufficient ...not at 18 but that is the goal I dont see why they cant be autism or not.Dd is an honor roll student she deserves to go to University.She will still live at home but she is going to University.DS is going to trade school.He too can manage to be self sufficient in due time.I was going to treat myself because I was stressed TF out has nothing to do with being deserving I was legit stressed out...imagine having a great day planned and suddenly your kids are beating the hell out of eachother for no reason and you're caught in the middle. I needed to wind down.I did NOT go to a casino or restaurant btw i ended up staying home and eating tapito ramen noodles for dinner.

[mater-three]

Wait. I just realized that your dd slapped ds first. You are punishing ds but not dd? That’s one way to show favoritism I guess.

[Momto2boys973]

Parenting doesn’t end when your kids are 18 or almost 18. It’s a lifelong commitment and it seems to me you don’t get that. You seem to think that once they hit the magical age when the law says they’re “adults” you can just wash your hand is and forget about it. You’ll be their parent forever and although you may lose some of your rights, you’ll have the responsibility forever. To guide them, advice them, support them and help them.
So you’re not “too late” for parenting classes. And you definitely need those. It seems you have a potential abuser and you just think it’ll be none of your business once he’s 18?
Seriously, how have you’ve never been on Dr. Phil, Jerry Springer, Maury or Oprah is beyond shocking…..

I’m sorry but you truly need some parenting classes. Your children need therapy and anger management. You will see that as mean but it’s truth.

You don’t hit your kids yet your response was to get a belt and proceed to hit them? I’m sorry how does one jump from no corporal punishment to punishment with an object? Sorry doesn’t add up.

Next time this happens and it will, call the police. Get the lid on a juvenile lock up.

As for Christmas—shakes my head. You have no job, begged for $$ for a tv and yet you are buying $500 PlayStations. Damn, I should quit my job and go on welfare.

Dd is already in therapy.Ds refuses therapy I already tried with him I took him to appointments filed out questionaires etc and he refused.He insisted he's not depressed ,not angry etc.He refused to talk there is nothing I can do on that front.

Its too late for parenting classes dd is almost 18 she's an honor roll student ,obedient child she is going off to university in a few months .Ds is more behind intellectually but he is also doing very well in school and he usually is not a problem at home he does what i ask/say idk what happened today and what made him snap but this is an outlier ...this is not his usual behavior.

Ds is 15 what could a parenting class teach me? My kids are almost adults.

I dont think im a great parent but im not the worst either.

[Momto2boys973]

IKR?
I agree with others that her son overreacted and it was uncalled for, but the daughter becoming this poor, innocent victim isn’t right either. She shouldn’t be coddled and avoid punishment because she got a nasty response. She started it and if you can take it, don’t dish it. I doubt this is the first time that kid has overreacted, so she knew what could possibly happen by hitting him first for no reason.

Wait. I just realized that your dd slapped ds first. You are punishing ds but not dd? That’s one way to show favoritism I guess.

[jas]

What the f**k did I just read?

Look lady... You're into punishing your son when your DAUGHTER started this shit. WTF? You're going to treat yourself? why? You're always treating yourself. You don't give 2 shits about learning to become a better parent. Parenting doesn't stop when they're 18, you fool. And considering everything you've said about your kids, they're going to be living with you for a long time. Take those classes. I'm sure they're free.

Yeah i don't think so I'm not signing up for parenting classes when my kids are damn near is nothing they can teach me.

There is nothing they can teach you???? Are you serious because I think you're a fool. They are autistic are they not? Are you autistic as well? That might explain a little...
As a parent of an autistic child I offer you this... you know nothing. You're pitting them against each other and are doing nothing to teach them about socialization. Hitting him with a belt?? Seriously? Treating your daughter for starting this bullshit? If ANYONE needs parenting classes, it's you.

[SouthernIslander]

I am surprised by how many people would call the police.

I cannot ever see such an physical altercation occurring in my home, thank goodness. However, in general the posters here have way more confidence in law enforcement and the value/benefit of criminal charges in a youth offender than I do.

Yeah calling the police isnt an option for me they are too trigger happy especially with minorities.I will not call the police but ill drive his ass to the psych ward of a hospital. Hopefully it wont come to that im going to try to force him into therapy.He is angry his dad isnt around but there is literally nothing I can do about that but he will not use me and his sister as a punching bag because that jerk walked out on him and his sister.He cant be mad at me for sticking around

I agree with this. Forcing him into therapy instead of the justice system makes more sense because he won’t get any help on jail. But just make sure you do it because it is dangerous for you both if he doesn’t get a handle on his anger and mental health.

[SouthernIslander]

There are hot pockets in the freezer.

I put the turkey wings back in the fridge ill cook them tomorrow.I told dd why Im not cooking and she is okay with it...Not cooking is to punish ds ...Ds loves when I cook and he been looking forward to it all day but im no longer cooking .

He can have a hot pocket and go to bed.

I may get up later and go to the casino later on tonight.I can treat myself to TGI Fridays or some other casino restaurant that's open .I had plans on taking both kids out to breakfast tomorrow and thats not happening I will take dd..ds can eat at home.

I really wouldn’t leave those kids in the house by themselves late at night and after such a horrible fight.


I hope it gets better and sorry y’all had a rough day.

Thank you and i planned on taking DD with me.I didnt end up going anywhere I stayed home but I did promise dd i would take her out for brunch today which im getting dressed for now.Ds can eat the frozen breakfast sandwiches in the freezer.I dont want to take him out anywhere anytime soon.

If your DD emasculated your son by slapping him in the face, she should be punished as well. He way over reacted but she can’t put her hands on anybody and expect to be treated like the victim.