Thanksgiving is ruined

[PoplarGrove]

I’m sorry but you truly need some parenting classes. Your children need therapy and anger management. You will see that as mean but it’s truth.

You don’t hit your kids yet your response was to get a belt and proceed to hit them? I’m sorry how does one jump from no corporal punishment to punishment with an object? Sorry doesn’t add up.

Next time this happens and it will, call the police. Get the lid on a juvenile lock up.

As for Christmas—shakes my head. You have no job, begged for $$ for a tv and yet you are buying $500 PlayStations. Damn, I should quit my job and go on welfare.

Dd is already in therapy.Ds refuses therapy I already tried with him I took him to appointments filed out questionaires etc and he refused.He insisted he's not depressed ,not angry etc.He refused to talk there is nothing I can do on that front.

Its too late for parenting classes dd is almost 18 she's an honor roll student ,obedient child she is going off to university in a few months .Ds is more behind intellectually but he is also doing very well in school and he usually is not a problem at home he does what i ask/say idk what happened today and what made him snap but this is an outlier ...this is not his usual behavior.

Ds is 15 what could a parenting class teach me? My kids are almost adults.

I dont think im a great parent but im not the worst either.

A parenting class can always teach you something. You're children sound like they weren't taught emotional regulation.

It's too late now but the next time your son decides the best way to let his emotions out is to his someone CALL THE POLICE. When he has to choose between going to juvenile detention or going to therapy he might actually make the right decision. Stop making excuses for him. He beat the shit out of his sister and mother. That's a big deal. Using "his behaviour is out of character" might be ok for when your 15 year old tells you to f**k off but not when he physically assaults someone. He's only going to get bigger and more destructive.

[MonarchMom]

It is never "too late" to learn to be a better parent. You will be their parent until the day you die, and many of the same issues come up with adult children.

I still strive to be a better parent and listen to what my adult child has to tell me. I want us to have a healthy, positive relationship and to be a friend and support system for her.

[jas]

What the f**k did I just read?

Look lady... You're into punishing your son when your DAUGHTER started this shit. WTF? You're going to treat yourself? why? You're always treating yourself. You don't give 2 shits about learning to become a better parent. Parenting doesn't stop when they're 18, you fool. And considering everything you've said about your kids, they're going to be living with you for a long time. Take those classes. I'm sure they're free.

[Kookookrazy]

The odds of your children moving out and living on their own is slim to none. Let’s be honest. Community college isn’t “university”. Therefore, parenting classes for you would be helpful. You would learn how to handle every day behaviors and these outbursts both.

As for your later comment of “going to treat yourself”. Oh my lord…you are an idiot. You don’t leave two colitis children home alone while you go gamble and stuff your face. Finally, what are you treating yourself for? Did you get a job? Did you enroll in school? What? A treat is a once I’m a whole, not an “oh I’m bored“

I’m sorry but you truly need some parenting classes. Your children need therapy and anger management. You will see that as mean but it’s truth.

You don’t hit your kids yet your response was to get a belt and proceed to hit them? I’m sorry how does one jump from no corporal punishment to punishment with an object? Sorry doesn’t add up.

Next time this happens and it will, call the police. Get the lid on a juvenile lock up.

As for Christmas—shakes my head. You have no job, begged for $$ for a tv and yet you are buying $500 PlayStations. Damn, I should quit my job and go on welfare.

Dd is already in therapy.Ds refuses therapy I already tried with him I took him to appointments filed out questionaires etc and he refused.He insisted he's not depressed ,not angry etc.He refused to talk there is nothing I can do on that front.

Its too late for parenting classes dd is almost 18 she's an honor roll student ,obedient child she is going off to university in a few months .Ds is more behind intellectually but he is also doing very well in school and he usually is not a problem at home he does what i ask/say idk what happened today and what made him snap but this is an outlier ...this is not his usual behavior.

Ds is 15 what could a parenting class teach me? My kids are almost adults.

I dont think im a great parent but im not the worst either.

They will be self sufficient ...not at 18 but that is the goal I dont see why they cant be autism or not.Dd is an honor roll student she deserves to go to University.She will still live at home but she is going to University.DS is going to trade school.He too can manage to be self sufficient in due time.I was going to treat myself because I was stressed TF out has nothing to do with being deserving I was legit stressed out...imagine having a great day planned and suddenly your kids are beating the hell out of eachother for no reason and you're caught in the middle. I needed to wind down.I did NOT go to a casino or restaurant btw i ended up staying home and eating tapito ramen noodles for dinner.

[Kookookrazy]

What the f**k did I just read?

Look lady... You're into punishing your son when your DAUGHTER started this shit. WTF? You're going to treat yourself? why? You're always treating yourself. You don't give 2 shits about learning to become a better parent. Parenting doesn't stop when they're 18, you fool. And considering everything you've said about your kids, they're going to be living with you for a long time. Take those classes. I'm sure they're free.

Yeah i don't think so I'm not signing up for parenting classes when my kids are damn near is nothing they can teach me.

[Kookookrazy]

I’m sorry but you truly need some parenting classes. Your children need therapy and anger management. You will see that as mean but it’s truth.

You don’t hit your kids yet your response was to get a belt and proceed to hit them? I’m sorry how does one jump from no corporal punishment to punishment with an object? Sorry doesn’t add up.

Next time this happens and it will, call the police. Get the lid on a juvenile lock up.

As for Christmas—shakes my head. You have no job, begged for $$ for a tv and yet you are buying $500 PlayStations. Damn, I should quit my job and go on welfare.

Dd is already in therapy.Ds refuses therapy I already tried with him I took him to appointments filed out questionaires etc and he refused.He insisted he's not depressed ,not angry etc.He refused to talk there is nothing I can do on that front.

Its too late for parenting classes dd is almost 18 she's an honor roll student ,obedient child she is going off to university in a few months .Ds is more behind intellectually but he is also doing very well in school and he usually is not a problem at home he does what i ask/say idk what happened today and what made him snap but this is an outlier ...this is not his usual behavior.

Ds is 15 what could a parenting class teach me? My kids are almost adults.

I dont think im a great parent but im not the worst either.

A parenting class can always teach you something. You're children sound like they weren't taught emotional regulation.

It's too late now but the next time your son decides the best way to let his emotions out is to his someone CALL THE POLICE. When he has to choose between going to juvenile detention or going to therapy he might actually make the right decision. Stop making excuses for him. He beat the shit out of his sister and mother. That's a big deal. Using "his behaviour is out of character" might be ok for when your 15 year old tells you to f**k off but not when he physically assaults someone. He's only going to get bigger and more destructive.

I agree i will look into it .He is a big boy and he overpowered us both easily.

[Kookookrazy]

I hope you're going to feed them Supper.

There are hot pockets in the freezer.

I put the turkey wings back in the fridge ill cook them tomorrow.I told dd why Im not cooking and she is okay with it...Not cooking is to punish ds ...Ds loves when I cook and he been looking forward to it all day but im no longer cooking .

He can have a hot pocket and go to bed.

I may get up later and go to the casino later on tonight.I can treat myself to TGI Fridays or some other casino restaurant that's open .I had plans on taking both kids out to breakfast tomorrow and thats not happening I will take dd..ds can eat at home.

I really wouldn’t leave those kids in the house by themselves late at night and after such a horrible fight.


I hope it gets better and sorry y’all had a rough day.

Thank you and i planned on taking DD with me.I didnt end up going anywhere I stayed home but I did promise dd i would take her out for brunch today which im getting dressed for now.Ds can eat the frozen breakfast sandwiches in the freezer.I dont want to take him out anywhere anytime soon.

[LiveWhatULove]

I am surprised by how many people would call the police.

I cannot ever see such an physical altercation occurring in my home, thank goodness. However, in general the posters here have way more confidence in law enforcement and the value/benefit of criminal charges in a youth offender than I do.

[Kookookrazy]

I don't blame him for going after him. He's been dealing with your abuse his whole life.

Not only that but she is pitting the children against each other. Just in this post she mentions she will - Take her daughter out for breakfast while leaving her son at home, and cancelling her DS's Christmas while she may not cancel her DD's. It is going to breed resentment and contempt.

OP - You really need to get into family therapy all of you need to go together. Where did your DD slap your son, was it on the hand as a being playful, or was it done in a confrontational way? If you do not get your son help something is going to happen. Either he is going to go after the wrong person and end up seriously hurt, or he is going to end up in jail when he goes after someone else and seriously hurts them. Also why is your DD always hitting your DS? This should have been stopped long before this. It is no excuse for his actions but your DD is also to blame as when you continuous push someones buttons, sometimes there is a reaction back. Both of them should be punished the same. The child is lashing out, he needs to learn how to deal with it before the inevitable happens.

Dd told me when they were in the hallway ds pushed past her to get into my room to get his food she said she lightly slapped him on his back as he bumrushed past her to get the food and he hit her back HARD...and that is how it all began.

I do notice that dd does slap him around but she says she does it playfully/lightly.I have told her in the past to stop it. His trigger is food and she will do things to trigger him..

For example this happened a couple months ago I sent them into the 7/11 to buy snacks as they were leaving ds asked for the bag and attempted to get the bag and dd refused and they fought over the bag and the bag ended up ripped and everything fell out.I got mad at dd because she knows how he is with food and she couldve just gave him the bag since he insisted on carrying it but she was stubborn and fought him for the bag...Both kids were angry and upset...Dd felt like i took his side...DS was upset his food was ruined.Its like I cant win....

If i take either side the other one is upset.If i get upset at both which i DID i blamed them both but i also told dd she was wrong because KNOWS how he is about food and it couldve been avoided he just wanted to carry the bag .


My life is a hot mess...and Im tired.

[Kookookrazy]

I am surprised by how many people would call the police.

I cannot ever see such an physical altercation occurring in my home, thank goodness. However, in general the posters here have way more confidence in law enforcement and the value/benefit of criminal charges in a youth offender than I do.

Yeah calling the police isnt an option for me they are too trigger happy especially with minorities.I will not call the police but ill drive his ass to the psych ward of a hospital. Hopefully it wont come to that im going to try to force him into therapy.He is angry his dad isnt around but there is literally nothing I can do about that but he will not use me and his sister as a punching bag because that jerk walked out on him and his sister.He cant be mad at me for sticking around