Thanksgiving is ruined

[SouthernIslander]

I hope you're going to feed them Supper.

There are hot pockets in the freezer.

I put the turkey wings back in the fridge ill cook them tomorrow.I told dd why Im not cooking and she is okay with it...Not cooking is to punish ds ...Ds loves when I cook and he been looking forward to it all day but im no longer cooking .

He can have a hot pocket and go to bed.

I may get up later and go to the casino later on tonight.I can treat myself to TGI Fridays or some other casino restaurant that's open .I had plans on taking both kids out to breakfast tomorrow and thats not happening I will take dd..ds can eat at home.

I really wouldn’t leave those kids in the house by themselves late at night and after such a horrible fight.


I hope it gets better and sorry y’all had a rough day.

[Anonymous 4]

I hope you're going to feed them Supper.

There are hot pockets in the freezer.

I put the turkey wings back in the fridge ill cook them tomorrow.I told dd why Im not cooking and she is okay with it...Not cooking is to punish ds ...Ds loves when I cook and he been looking forward to it all day but im no longer cooking .

He can have a hot pocket and go to bed.

I may get up later and go to the casino later on tonight.I can treat myself to TGI Fridays or some other casino restaurant that's open .I had plans on taking both kids out to breakfast tomorrow and thats not happening I will take dd..ds can eat at home.

So your kids beat the f**k out of each but you're going out, why fo you feel the need to gamble? Do you have an addiction?

Sounds like it's her way to cope/escape the reality of her life. Although maybe using it as a crutch for such makes it an addiction?

[SoFloMom]

Wtf.

[Anonymous 5]

I don't blame him for going after him. He's been dealing with your abuse his whole life.

[Quorra2.0]

I am a little baffled that you thought hitting your child with a belt while telling him to stop hitting was going to be effective in any way.

I wouldn’t say our Thanksgiving was ruined but there was definitely drama. Two of my bff’s dds live together. In addition, one DD’s bf, his Dd, and his mother have all moved in. BF showed his ass and said something hateful to the Dd that’s not his gf. She responded back with telling him she finds it disgusting that he’s using her sister to support him, his Dd, and his mother. More words were said, tears followed, girls each left. BFF ended up having to take her grand baby to the children’s hospital with complaints of chest pains.

[highlandmum]

I don't blame him for going after him. He's been dealing with your abuse his whole life.

Not only that but she is pitting the children against each other. Just in this post she mentions she will - Take her daughter out for breakfast while leaving her son at home, and cancelling her DS's Christmas while she may not cancel her DD's. It is going to breed resentment and contempt.

OP - You really need to get into family therapy all of you need to go together. Where did your DD slap your son, was it on the hand as a being playful, or was it done in a confrontational way? If you do not get your son help something is going to happen. Either he is going to go after the wrong person and end up seriously hurt, or he is going to end up in jail when he goes after someone else and seriously hurts them. Also why is your DD always hitting your DS? This should have been stopped long before this. It is no excuse for his actions but your DD is also to blame as when you continuous push someones buttons, sometimes there is a reaction back. Both of them should be punished the same. The child is lashing out, he needs to learn how to deal with it before the inevitable happens.

[Quorra2.0]

I don't blame him for going after him. He's been dealing with your abuse his whole life.

Not only that but she is pitting the children against each other. Just in this post she mentions she will - Take her daughter out for breakfast while leaving her son at home, and cancelling her DS's Christmas while she may not cancel her DD's. It is going to breed resentment and contempt.

OP - You really need to get into family therapy all of you need to go together. Where did your DD slap your son, was it on the hand as a being playful, or was it done in a confrontational way? If you do not get your son help something is going to happen. Either he is going to go after the wrong person and end up seriously hurt, or he is going to end up in jail when he goes after someone else and seriously hurts them. Also why is your DD always hitting your DS? This should have been stopped long before this. It is no excuse for his actions but your DD is also to blame as when you continuous push someones buttons, sometimes there is a reaction back. Both of them should be punished the same. The child is lashing out, he needs to learn how to deal with it before the inevitable happens.

She has a pattern I’ve noticed. When she’s pissed off at dd, her ds is perfect and she’s going to “treat” him. When she’s pissed off at ds, dd is perfect and she “treats” dd. She’s highly emotionally manipulative towards her children. They’ll end up with a similar relationship she has with her brother at this rate. Based on what she’s posted regardless of how she thinks she’s broken the cycle of abuse, she really hasn’t.

[Anonymous 1]

It's your mother, you and your brother all over again. Stop the cycle.

[Anonymous 4]

I don't blame him for going after him. He's been dealing with your abuse his whole life.

Not only that but she is pitting the children against each other. Just in this post she mentions she will - Take her daughter out for breakfast while leaving her son at home, and cancelling her DS's Christmas while she may not cancel her DD's. It is going to breed resentment and contempt.

OP - You really need to get into family therapy all of you need to go together. Where did your DD slap your son, was it on the hand as a being playful, or was it done in a confrontational way? If you do not get your son help something is going to happen. Either he is going to go after the wrong person and end up seriously hurt, or he is going to end up in jail when he goes after someone else and seriously hurts them. Also why is your DD always hitting your DS? This should have been stopped long before this. It is no excuse for his actions but your DD is also to blame as when you continuous push someones buttons, sometimes there is a reaction back. Both of them should be punished the same. The child is lashing out, he needs to learn how to deal with it before the inevitable happens.

Thank you for mentioning this. I meant to and then got distracted before I posted, but yeah, favoritism when both kids were in the wrong is probably one reason DS might have "snapped" if this happens a lot. She acts like this stuff comes from nowhere.

[Deleted User 1977]

My heart breaks for you and your family.

There's nothing wrong with admitting you need parenting classes and life coping skills. It will show you and especially your children that you want to try harder.

Never, ever hit a child with a belt!