I had to fire two of my favorite employees

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My company has a very strict no dating policy. There was a lawsuit years ago and after that they put the policy in place.

Two people in my department announced they were dating. Upper management found out and told me I had to fire them. The employee said they didn't think the rule was serious. She was crying and begging me not to. We were pretty close friends but I know that is never going to be the same again.

I knew she kind of liked him but I didn't think she would go against the rules like that. I hate the whole situation. I hate the stupid policy and I hate that I had to be involved in any of this.
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Oh well, it’s a policy for a reason. They chose to violate it.
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What was the lawsuit about? And couldn't they have just said oh we broke up and dated in secret?
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Anonymous 1 wrote:
Sun Aug 02, 2020 1:00 pm
My company has a very strict no dating policy. There was a lawsuit years ago and after that they put the policy in place.

Two people in my department announced they were dating. Upper management found out and told me I had to fire them. The employee said they didn't think the rule was serious. She was crying and begging me not to. We were pretty close friends but I know that is never going to be the same again.

I knew she kind of liked him but I didn't think she would go against the rules like that. I hate the whole situation. I hate the stupid policy and I hate that I had to be involved in any of this.
Why would she think it wasn't a serious rule?
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She knowingly violated the policy. That is a policy that exists in a lot of workplaces, especially to prevent favoritism if it is a relationship between a manager and subordinate. My workplace requires that you disclose any romantic relationships in the workplace. People have been fired for not doing so.
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lauren08 wrote:
Sun Aug 02, 2020 2:22 pm
She knowingly violated the policy. That is a policy that exists in a lot of workplaces, especially to prevent favoritism if it is a relationship between a manager and subordinate. My workplace requires that you disclose any romantic relationships in the workplace. People have been fired for not doing so.
I have always been subject to a disclosure requirement to prevent nepotism, but never an absolute ban. DH and I worked at the same firm for many years.
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I met my husband at work. We worked for a federal agency. The policy there is that if one is more senior than the other the junior partner can't report to the senior partner, they must work in different branches. Is this a small company?
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Can't one just quit?
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carterscutie85 wrote:
Sun Aug 02, 2020 1:06 pm
What was the lawsuit about? And couldn't they have just said oh we broke up and dated in secret?
Two employees dated. The relationship ended badly and one of the people sued the company saying they allowed an abuse of power and other things. If they didn't tell anyone they were dating and no one ever found out then it wouldn't have been an issue.
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Sun Aug 02, 2020 1:12 pm
Anonymous 1 wrote:
Sun Aug 02, 2020 1:00 pm
My company has a very strict no dating policy. There was a lawsuit years ago and after that they put the policy in place.

Two people in my department announced they were dating. Upper management found out and told me I had to fire them. The employee said they didn't think the rule was serious. She was crying and begging me not to. We were pretty close friends but I know that is never going to be the same again.

I knew she kind of liked him but I didn't think she would go against the rules like that. I hate the whole situation. I hate the stupid policy and I hate that I had to be involved in any of this.
Why would she think it wasn't a serious rule?
I honestly have no idea. It has always been enforced.
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