Could you marry a guy your family didn’t like?

[LiveWhatULove]

I did. It took a decade or so for them to sort of come around.

[Deleted User 1393]

I could

[Emmasmom]

Well he sounds like a deadbeat so far? What redeeming qualities does he have? Does he have a job? Can he support himself or is he leeching off you? Is he a good father figure or does he have 4 other baby momma's he doesn't pay child support to? Is his only redeeming quality that he tells you you're pretty and you've got low self esteem so you fall for his shit? Is he financially responsible or is he always begging for money and doing side hustles?

He has an honest, hardworking job but he doesn’t earn much money. He is a good father and does not have children with anyone else so he is not tied up in child support.

How can he be hardworking when you said he's unmotivated?

[Traci_Momof2]

Their reasons being he is unsuccessful, unmotivated, did not go to college, and they think he is a deadbeat.

Eta: your family is very uppity and looks down on anyone who works a small time job and is not making a lot of money. They have those same standards for you.

Can't relate. My husband came from a more "uppity" family than I did. In my family, my sister and I were the first generation to get a college degree. If my family looked down on a guy for the qualities you gave, especially my mom, she would've been entirely hypocritical.

[Anonymous 1]

Well he sounds like a deadbeat so far? What redeeming qualities does he have? Does he have a job? Can he support himself or is he leeching off you? Is he a good father figure or does he have 4 other baby momma's he doesn't pay child support to? Is his only redeeming quality that he tells you you're pretty and you've got low self esteem so you fall for his shit? Is he financially responsible or is he always begging for money and doing side hustles?

He has an honest, hardworking job but he doesn’t earn much money. He is a good father and does not have children with anyone else so he is not tied up in child support.

How can he be hardworking when you said he's unmotivated?

I never said he’s unmotivated. That’s my family’s perception.

[Anonymous 1]

Their reasons being he is unsuccessful, unmotivated, did not go to college, and they think he is a deadbeat.

Eta: your family is very uppity and looks down on anyone who works a small time job and is not making a lot of money. They have those same standards for you.

Can't relate. My husband came from a more "uppity" family than I did. In my family, my sister and I were the first generation to get a college degree. If my family looked down on a guy for the qualities you gave, especially my mom, she would've been entirely hypocritical.

I grew up in one of the wealthiest counties in the country, so that gives you an idea of my folks lol. It was a requirement that all of us kids go to college and a top one at that.

[hotspice58]

If he’s working and is self sufficient, yes i would,

[Anonymous 7]

Their reasons being he is unsuccessful, unmotivated, did not go to college, and they think he is a deadbeat.

Eta: your family is very uppity and looks down on anyone who works a small time job and is not making a lot of money. They have those same standards for you.

Can't relate. My husband came from a more "uppity" family than I did. In my family, my sister and I were the first generation to get a college degree. If my family looked down on a guy for the qualities you gave, especially my mom, she would've been entirely hypocritical.

I grew up in one of the wealthiest counties in the country, so that gives you an idea of my folks lol. It was a requirement that all of us kids go to college and a top one at that.

Is his work steady or seasonal? If it's not steady, what is he doing in his downtime?

[Anonymous 8]

Their reasons being he is unsuccessful, unmotivated, did not go to college, and they think he is a deadbeat.

Eta: your family is very uppity and looks down on anyone who works a small time job and is not making a lot of money. They have those same standards for you.

I agree with your family, the people that love us see more than we do when we are in a relationship. The saying "love is blind" rings true a lot
But I was raised in a uppity well to do family, so I'm biased on this subject

[Anonymous 9]

It sounds like he's the one who should be questioning his choice of a spouse. I doubt your family has made him feel comfortable.