Would you take her to the doctor?

[Inmybizz]

Did you take her to the doctor? If so, what happened?

[Anonymous 6]

That's when a good dart gun with a tranquilizer on the end comes in handy. Shoot her in the ass. Put her in the car. And drag her into the doctor's office. Done.

[Valentina327]

She is 13...no she cannot refuse treatment.

You are so wrong.

I have read a few legal articles on the subject. It depends upon the state but the general consensus is that between the age of 14-17, a minor can refuse consent but that under 14, it is questionable. Frankly I am amazed that y’all seem to think that this is okay. A 13YO does not have the knowledge to make informed consent. The brain is not fully developed so that they can appreciate the consequences of the choices. The OP is the parent. She is in the position to take the CHILD to the doctor. The ironic thing is that if she doesn’t and this turns very serious, the parent could face allegations of medical neglect. Yet everyone on here is focused on how this child can refuse treatment.

That to me shows a complete lack of discipline and respect at home if your young child is pulling that crap. I couldn't imagine at 13 "refusing treatment". My ma said I needed to go to the doctor as a child, I got my little ass in the car. I might moan once, let out with a "but Ma". There'd be no refusing anything though.

[Inmybizz]

You are so wrong.

I have read a few legal articles on the subject. It depends upon the state but the general consensus is that between the age of 14-17, a minor can refuse consent but that under 14, it is questionable. Frankly I am amazed that y’all seem to think that this is okay. A 13YO does not have the knowledge to make informed consent. The brain is not fully developed so that they can appreciate the consequences of the choices. The OP is the parent. She is in the position to take the CHILD to the doctor. The ironic thing is that if she doesn’t and this turns very serious, the parent could face allegations of medical neglect. Yet everyone on here is focused on how this child can refuse treatment.

That to me shows a complete lack of discipline and respect at home if your young child is pulling that crap. I couldn't imagine at 13 "refusing treatment". My ma said I needed to go to the doctor as a child, I got my little ass in the car. I might moan once, let out with a "but Ma". There'd be no refusing anything though.

Yeah..I don't get that either.

[Anonymous 6]

Same here. If my parents told me to get in the car, I'd be getting in the car.

I will say, though, that my 16yo was very sick at one time. She had been to every sort of specialist and dietician that you could imagine. She had been poked and prodded, diagnosed, misdiagnosed, prescribed, and prescribed again...and still she suffered. One day, when they told her she needed to have a full battery of blood work AGAIN, she dug in her heels and said, "Mom, I'll tell you what. I'm not letting them take one more ounce of blood."

A day later, I was able to convince her to get into the car and go to have the work done. When we got to the lab, she refused to get out of the car. (FYI: The previous 3 times she had blood drawn, they had difficulty getting the vein and she passed out all 3 times.) She just sat in the car with tears in her eyes and said, "I'm sorry, Mom, but I'm not going in." (I wanted to pull my hair out!) I calmly (!) explained to her that I could understand her frustration and why she would not be wanting to do one more test. But then I told her, "You're getting the blood work done. I will sit with you through it. But you're getting it done. You need to suck it up, brave it out, and do what you need to do so that you can feel better and live a happy normal life. You can do this. You know you can." And just like that, she opened the car door, said, "OK. Let's do this!" and went in to get her blood work done.

It ain't easy. But a mom's got to do what a mom's got to do.

PS: And afterwards, I took her for a good cheeseburger and all was right with the world.

You are so wrong.

I have read a few legal articles on the subject. It depends upon the state but the general consensus is that between the age of 14-17, a minor can refuse consent but that under 14, it is questionable. Frankly I am amazed that y’all seem to think that this is okay. A 13YO does not have the knowledge to make informed consent. The brain is not fully developed so that they can appreciate the consequences of the choices. The OP is the parent. She is in the position to take the CHILD to the doctor. The ironic thing is that if she doesn’t and this turns very serious, the parent could face allegations of medical neglect. Yet everyone on here is focused on how this child can refuse treatment.

That to me shows a complete lack of discipline and respect at home if your young child is pulling that crap. I couldn't imagine at 13 "refusing treatment". My ma said I needed to go to the doctor as a child, I got my little ass in the car. I might moan once, let out with a "but Ma". There'd be no refusing anything though.

[Valentina327]

Same here. If my parents told me to get in the car, I'd be getting in the car.

I will say, though, that my 16yo was very sick at one time. She had been to every sort of specialist and dietician that you could imagine. She had been poked and prodded, diagnosed, misdiagnosed, prescribed, and prescribed again...and still she suffered. One day, when they told her she needed to have a full battery of blood work AGAIN, she dug in her heels and said, "Mom, I'll tell you what. I'm not letting them take one more ounce of blood."

A day later, I was able to convince her to get into the car and go to have the work done. When we got to the lab, she refused to get out of the car. (FYI: The previous 3 times she had blood drawn, they had difficulty getting the vein and she passed out all 3 times.) She just sat in the car with tears in her eyes and said, "I'm sorry, Mom, but I'm not going in." (I wanted to pull my hair out!) I calmly (!) explained to her that I could understand her frustration and why she would not be wanting to do one more test. But then I told her, "You're getting the blood work done. I will sit with you through it. But you're getting it done. You need to suck it up, brave it out, and do what you need to do so that you can feel better and live a happy normal life. You can do this. You know you can." And just like that, she opened the car door, said, "OK. Let's do this!" and went in to get her blood work done.

It ain't easy. But a mom's got to do what a mom's got to do.

PS: And afterwards, I took her for a good cheeseburger and all was right with the world.

I have read a few legal articles on the subject. It depends upon the state but the general consensus is that between the age of 14-17, a minor can refuse consent but that under 14, it is questionable. Frankly I am amazed that y’all seem to think that this is okay. A 13YO does not have the knowledge to make informed consent. The brain is not fully developed so that they can appreciate the consequences of the choices. The OP is the parent. She is in the position to take the CHILD to the doctor. The ironic thing is that if she doesn’t and this turns very serious, the parent could face allegations of medical neglect. Yet everyone on here is focused on how this child can refuse treatment.

That to me shows a complete lack of discipline and respect at home if your young child is pulling that crap. I couldn't imagine at 13 "refusing treatment". My ma said I needed to go to the doctor as a child, I got my little ass in the car. I might moan once, let out with a "but Ma". There'd be no refusing anything though.

Poor kid! I can understand why she needed some extra mom coaxing after all that poking. Glad she was brave.

I truly hope you've been able to figure what's been bothering her and get it resolved. So frustrating to be in that spot.

[Anonymous 6]

Thanks so much. She still suffers but is much better than she once was. And the only reason I didn't go nuts on her that day is because she wasn't be snotty or obstinate. She was actually apologizing for making things difficult. But she was also telling me she was scared, frustrated, and that she needed me to push her through those doors.

Same here. If my parents told me to get in the car, I'd be getting in the car.

I will say, though, that my 16yo was very sick at one time. She had been to every sort of specialist and dietician that you could imagine. She had been poked and prodded, diagnosed, misdiagnosed, prescribed, and prescribed again...and still she suffered. One day, when they told her she needed to have a full battery of blood work AGAIN, she dug in her heels and said, "Mom, I'll tell you what. I'm not letting them take one more ounce of blood."

A day later, I was able to convince her to get into the car and go to have the work done. When we got to the lab, she refused to get out of the car. (FYI: The previous 3 times she had blood drawn, they had difficulty getting the vein and she passed out all 3 times.) She just sat in the car with tears in her eyes and said, "I'm sorry, Mom, but I'm not going in." (I wanted to pull my hair out!) I calmly (!) explained to her that I could understand her frustration and why she would not be wanting to do one more test. But then I told her, "You're getting the blood work done. I will sit with you through it. But you're getting it done. You need to suck it up, brave it out, and do what you need to do so that you can feel better and live a happy normal life. You can do this. You know you can." And just like that, she opened the car door, said, "OK. Let's do this!" and went in to get her blood work done.

It ain't easy. But a mom's got to do what a mom's got to do.

PS: And afterwards, I took her for a good cheeseburger and all was right with the world.

That to me shows a complete lack of discipline and respect at home if your young child is pulling that crap. I couldn't imagine at 13 "refusing treatment". My ma said I needed to go to the doctor as a child, I got my little ass in the car. I might moan once, let out with a "but Ma". There'd be no refusing anything though.

Poor kid! I can understand why she needed some extra mom coaxing after all that poking. Glad she was brave.

I truly hope you've been able to figure what's been bothering her and get it resolved. So frustrating to be in that spot.

[Gorilla_Mama]

Any update OP?

[Rosehawk]

Thanks so much. She still suffers but is much better than she once was. And the only reason I didn't go nuts on her that day is because she wasn't be snotty or obstinate. She was actually apologizing for making things difficult. But she was also telling me she was scared, frustrated, and that she needed me to push her through those doors.

Same here. If my parents told me to get in the car, I'd be getting in the car.

I will say, though, that my 16yo was very sick at one time. She had been to every sort of specialist and dietician that you could imagine. She had been poked and prodded, diagnosed, misdiagnosed, prescribed, and prescribed again...and still she suffered. One day, when they told her she needed to have a full battery of blood work AGAIN, she dug in her heels and said, "Mom, I'll tell you what. I'm not letting them take one more ounce of blood."

A day later, I was able to convince her to get into the car and go to have the work done. When we got to the lab, she refused to get out of the car. (FYI: The previous 3 times she had blood drawn, they had difficulty getting the vein and she passed out all 3 times.) She just sat in the car with tears in her eyes and said, "I'm sorry, Mom, but I'm not going in." (I wanted to pull my hair out!) I calmly (!) explained to her that I could understand her frustration and why she would not be wanting to do one more test. But then I told her, "You're getting the blood work done. I will sit with you through it. But you're getting it done. You need to suck it up, brave it out, and do what you need to do so that you can feel better and live a happy normal life. You can do this. You know you can." And just like that, she opened the car door, said, "OK. Let's do this!" and went in to get her blood work done.

It ain't easy. But a mom's got to do what a mom's got to do.

PS: And afterwards, I took her for a good cheeseburger and all was right with the world.

Poor kid! I can understand why she needed some extra mom coaxing after all that poking. Glad she was brave.

I truly hope you've been able to figure what's been bothering her and get it resolved. So frustrating to be in that spot.

This situation is different than what the OP presented. In the OP's situation, the child refused from the get go. Your daughter, she tried to comply, and wanted to do what she was told, but she hit her limit. I don't blame her. Having the three previous draws botched, I'd be more than reluctant as well. (((((HUGS))))) to your daughter.

[Anonymous 6]

Thank you so much, Rosehawk.

Thanks so much. She still suffers but is much better than she once was. And the only reason I didn't go nuts on her that day is because she wasn't be snotty or obstinate. She was actually apologizing for making things difficult. But she was also telling me she was scared, frustrated, and that she needed me to push her through those doors.

Poor kid! I can understand why she needed some extra mom coaxing after all that poking. Glad she was brave.

I truly hope you've been able to figure what's been bothering her and get it resolved. So frustrating to be in that spot.

This situation is different than what the OP presented. In the OP's situation, the child refused from the get go. Your daughter, she tried to comply, and wanted to do what she was told, but she hit her limit. I don't blame her. Having the three previous draws botched, I'd be more than reluctant as well. (((((HUGS))))) to your daughter.