Anonymous 1 wrote: ↑Sun Nov 10, 2019 7:27 am
mcginnisc wrote: ↑Sun Nov 10, 2019 7:18 am
I will preface this with the fact that I homeschool..
I do NOT police their work like that. My oldest does all of her tests online so I grade very little of her things...her papers and projects are handed in to me and I grade those...everyday work I don't touch. My youngest on the other hand still does all of her work by hand. She still has cursive tests and things like that. If it is sloppy, oh well..I will grade it as it is and if you fail it, that is on you kiddo. I feel like she needs natural consequences and that means if the work is substandard, she fails it. It will do my child no favors at all if I helicopter over her work as she will think she gets a million chances to make it right- you don't get that in the real world so you deal with whatever consequences come with the substandard work...if that means you get fired from work, I guess you learn a lesson.
I think ripping up her work was horrible parenting personally and well, while I do not condone her calling you names, I can understand "heat of the moment" since you were a jerk first. It does not matter that she has asperbergers IMO. You ripped up her work. You should have let her turn it in and face the consequences at school.
There ARE no consequences though - the teacher would accept it and not mark it down even with how much lack of effort she put in because "poor (dd's name) has disabilities, she can't get it" and just give her a B. Whereas I know DD does know her shit - when she tries. She's unfortunately very manipulative and can convince people she is "helpless" and "can't do 'it'" whatever 'it' is.
I told myself, I would stop replying to these things, but I cannot stop...
Advocate for your DD with the school! Why would a teacher dare think or say that? That is not acceptable. Does the teacher need more education about your child’s learning differences? My child with severe dyslexia, was making an A in spelling and I mumbled, “oh hell no” when I saw the report card and called an impromptu phone meeting, full of laughs, but I kindly told his teacher and SPED teacher, I don’t care if he gets an F in spelling, but please do not lie to him and act like that he is spelling like a normal child, he does not even practice at home, come on...and you know what- they got it, he makes B’s to D’s now. IEPs are to help your child. If it is not meeting the child’s needs, be the squeaky wheel, until it does. What about all the work you never see they do at school? You want them to not grade it? That is not right.
Why are you battling with your DD, when the school can help with this responsibility? They likely may not know, as many parents are the opposite and want their children to make A’s and B’s but that is why we have the “I” in the IEP for individualized.
To stay with your analogy, you are not going to go with her to her place of employment and tell her to re-do something, yet here you are, doing exactly what you are doing for the school. You are giving the consequence they should be giving.
I have 3 children, all with IEPs, it takes an immense amount of work and effort to fight for them, but I strongly recommend fighting for the resources that your child deserves.
I hope this does not come across as criticism, it’s not. I think you are a great mom who obviously cares very much. But your child deserves more from a teacher.