My ex is mad that he has to pay to see the kids

[Anonymous 1]

Because of his fucked up choices he has only supervised visits. It is $95 an hour for 2 hours twice a week. He also has to pay a $20 drop off fee for me to be able to drop the kids off. He has to pay in advance and if he misses a time he has to pay for it and a fee before they will set up another time.

He feels it is unfair and the kids are the ones missing out. It is unfair to the kids and they are missing out on having a normal relationship with their dad BUT it is needed and required by the courts. He has proven multiple times that he does not put the safety of our kids first. Eventually his will graduate from more to less supervision during visits and maybe if he can prove himself they will no longer be at a center and eventually not supervised.

He wants me to help pay but that isnt going to happen. It isnt my fault we are in this situation this is 100% on him.

[Anonymous 2]

This is sad. What did he do to cause himself to have only supervised visits with his kids?

[Anonymous 1]

This is sad. What did he do to cause himself to have only supervised visits with his kids?

He caused a car crash with the kids in the car. He was drunk and high on multiple drugs and caused the crash. It is sad for the kids but I don't feel bad for him at all. He has also failed multiple alcohol and drug tests since.

[AllofFive19]

You cam express sympathy and I would for the kids' sake, but as you say, it was his actions that caused this, not yours.

What happened that led to this? *ETA, just saw the reply where you said what caused this.

[Anonymous 1]

You cam express sympathy and I would for the kids' sake, but as you say, it was his actions that caused this, not yours.

What happened that led to this? *ETA, just saw the reply where you said what caused this.

He got in a car accident and got DUI and DUID while the kids were in the car.

[MrsDavidB]

This is sad. What did he do to cause himself to have only supervised visits with his kids?

He caused a car crash with the kids in the car. He was drunk and high on multiple drugs and caused the crash. It is sad for the kids but I don't feel bad for him at all. He has also failed multiple alcohol and drug tests since.

And you are still speaking to him? He would be dead to me.

[Jskidmore1946]

This is sad. What did he do to cause himself to have only supervised visits with his kids?

He caused a car crash with the kids in the car. He was drunk and high on multiple drugs and caused the crash. It is sad for the kids but I don't feel bad for him at all. He has also failed multiple alcohol and drug tests since.

And you are still speaking to him? He would be dead to me.

Thats not the way that works. Until his rights are terminated she still has to deal.with him

[MrsDavidB]

He caused a car crash with the kids in the car. He was drunk and high on multiple drugs and caused the crash. It is sad for the kids but I don't feel bad for him at all. He has also failed multiple alcohol and drug tests since.

And you are still speaking to him? He would be dead to me.

Thats not the way that works. Until his rights are terminated she still has to deal.with him

No she doesn’t. She can go through the courts like she said they are. She doesn’t have to take his personal phone calls whining about his troubles. She can hang up the phone.

[Jskidmore1946]

And you are still speaking to him? He would be dead to me.

Thats not the way that works. Until his rights are terminated she still has to deal.with him

No she doesn’t. She can go through the courts like she said they are. She doesn’t have to take his personal phone calls whining about his troubles. She can hang up the phone.

She never said anything in her origunal post about phone calls. But the courts would not look favorably on her for refusing to communicate. However, she could use these phone calls as documentation of harrassment and get it court ordered that they use Oir family wizard which would certainly cut down on his bullshit

[Anonymous 1]

This is sad. What did he do to cause himself to have only supervised visits with his kids?

He caused a car crash with the kids in the car. He was drunk and high on multiple drugs and caused the crash. It is sad for the kids but I don't feel bad for him at all. He has also failed multiple alcohol and drug tests since.

And you are still speaking to him? He would be dead to me.

I don't have much contact with him. If I could I would have never talked to him again. I can't just ignore the courts and court order.