Would it be wrong? (kids and money)

[Olioxenfree]

If it's something they want and are willing to spend money on, why would it be wrong?

[Anonymous 4]

8 year old plays the most, then 10 year old, then me & DH

It depends on what “for the whole family” means... Who plays and how much?

I would by the system and extra controllers. IF the kids want certain games then they can use part of their 540 combined money to buy them
I would not asl them for the miney because you and dh will be using the system also
Give them their allowance money and dont use the 240 as part of the purchase money

[Deleted User 638]

I might just ask them and see how that goes. I can't imagine what else they would need $200+ for.

I personally wouldn't but if it's something you think you need to do you can ask and see if they want to.

It doesn't matter if they won't use the money for something else. It's not right for an adult to take money from children. It's not okay to ask children for money. Don't put your children in a position where they feel they have to say yes because their mother is the one asking.

[Anonymous 1]

Well it's not like they could afford one on their own, and anyway that's just not the way we do things in our family. They have plenty of their own items but something like a gaming system isn't a personal possession in my opinion. At least not at their ages.

Also it's only THEIR money because we give it to them. Lol... I'm still undecided though, going to talk it over with DH too of course but just looking for some perspective.

Well I'm back & forth but I can list some reasons

All of their needs are met
They don't have to purchase their own clothes, decor, etc
They don't really have anything else to drop 100s on
They would be the primary players
They really want a new system

How would it not be?

If THEY want it, THEY can decide to purchase it and it would be THEIRS. If it’s their money, it’s their decision and belonging. You could ask for other people to use it, but telling them that they will be buying something for the family would be wrong, yes.

[Anonymous 1]

I'm not sure! It just feels odd to me, but I had a complicated childhood. Plenty of people are saying it's wrong but I haven't seen a reason why yet.

If it's something they want and are willing to spend money on, why would it be wrong?

[mojogirl]

I have 2 kids, I owe them each about $120 in allowance, and they also have about $300 saved up between the two of them. Would it be flat out wrong to ask them to put money towards a new video game system for the whole family? We had one until recently but it needs replaced.

They're 8 & 10.

Yes.

I can't imagine owing my kids for allowance. If you don't have money for allowance then kids don't get allowance. Stop making promises you can't keep.

[Anonymous 1]

Oh my kids have NO qualms about saying no to me. Lol... I understand what you're saying though.

I might just ask them and see how that goes. I can't imagine what else they would need $200+ for.

I personally wouldn't but if it's something you think you need to do you can ask and see if they want to.

It doesn't matter if they won't use the money for something else. It's not right for an adult to take money from children. It's not okay to ask children for money. Don't put your children in a position where they feel they have to say yes because their mother is the one asking.

[Anonymous 5]

I'm not sure! It just feels odd to me, but I had a complicated childhood. Plenty of people are saying it's wrong but I haven't seen a reason why yet.

If it's something they want and are willing to spend money on, why would it be wrong?

That odd feeling is your conscience. Listen to it.

[Anonymous 3]

It would be wrong.

You should be encouraging them to save their money. You shouldn't be giving them ideas of how to spend it.

You probably already mentioned this. But how much will this new system cost?

8 year old plays the most, then 10 year old, then me & DH

It depends on what “for the whole family” means... Who plays and how much?

[Anonymous 1]

I owe them allowance because they were with family overseas and then "lost" their wallets and I refused to hand them more money until they found them. Great job assuming and judging though.

I have 2 kids, I owe them each about $120 in allowance, and they also have about $300 saved up between the two of them. Would it be flat out wrong to ask them to put money towards a new video game system for the whole family? We had one until recently but it needs replaced.

They're 8 & 10.

Yes.

I can't imagine owing my kids for allowance. If you don't have money for allowance then kids don't get allowance. Stop making promises you can't keep.