That's 11 people instead of 10 and Im probably forgetting a few now that Im thinking about it.
I think that if the person is old and has been sick then you kind of expect it and in some cases its sad but in a weird kind of way...a relief. Its a relief because they aren't in pain or suffering anymore, if that makes sense.
BUT if they are young and the death comes out of the blue, that's more shocking and devastating to me anyway .
Anonymous 1 wrote: ↑Fri Sep 20, 2019 6:45 pm Most of the funerals I have been to were for older people, but a couple of them were younger and that affected me more...my cousin was in his 20's when he died in a motorcycle accident. I remember going to the hospital when he was in a coma and hooked up on a ventilator..I was really little....like maybe 6-8 yrs old....strange I don't remember my exact age...I just know that I didn't like seeing that. My friend died in a car accident when we were 19....i know that's not little for me, but that one really affected me. Also, my parents would always talk bad about all of the family...I mean really bad...and make fun of them, etc, etc. so that warped my mind thinking why the hell are we at the funeral and they are crying over them and stuff when all they did was bitch about them and make fun of them?! It just felt so icky and fake as a small child.
Sassy762 wrote: ↑Fri Sep 20, 2019 6:36 pm I'm old but I've only been to maybe 10 wake/funerals that I can recall in my lifetime. When I was young it seemed to be the thing to do ....to have the kids kiss the deceased person but NOT this young child or my young kids, lol My oldest two weren't born when my maternal grandfather passed away but were here when my maternal grandmother passed. They went to the wake and funeral but were so young, I doubt they remember it. They DID NOT kiss my grandmother in the coffin, she would have haunted me if I had them do that...but that never crossed my mind, lol
Anonymous 1 wrote: ↑Fri Sep 20, 2019 6:22 pm Oh geeze! Kiss them while in the coffin!?! No way! I have been to SO MANY funerals in my lifetime since I was a small child. I guess I was "forced" to do what everyone else was doing which was going up to the casket and looking at them. I always felt like they were going to open their eyes (the deceased person)! It was scary and I still feel that way when I go to funerals (which is rare now) but now I usually do not walk up to the casket any longer...I just kinda look over that way while I am at the back of the room. Or I just don't go to the showing or funeral at all.
And I have never brought my kids to a funeral no matter who they have been. I know it's my own thing of how I feel but going to so many funerals in my life really affected me and I don't think it's necessary for a child to go although I realize there is nothing wrong with it either...it's just been my choice for my kids so far. One of the funerals I went to recently was for my grandma. People were asking where my kids were and I simply said "at school" because it was a school day. They were not close to my grandma and in reality, neither was I. I still cared about her and had love for her though. If my inlaws pass away, I probably will "allow" my kids to go to their funeral. We aren't that close to them either, but they know who they are and they see them for some of the kids' bdays and for Christmas and every once in awhile we might see them a 3rd time in a year.