I mean your mind is made up so nothing I say will convince you.Anonymous 1 wrote: ↑Thu Jul 11, 2019 4:08 pmThey are part of our routine when they are here too which is every weekend. This would be a new routine that is not necessary or even wanted by anyone besides DHnoitsmebecky wrote: ↑Thu Jul 11, 2019 3:58 pm I just don’t understand this. My boyfriend’s daughter is just part of our routine when she’s here. He’s hoping to get all summer with her next year and he travels for work sometimes so he might not be here sometimes but idc. It’s about her being with our family and that includes me and my kids.
My kids are not here. They would be leaving their mom and other siblings to come here and not even see their dad. Please explain how that makes sense
But a blended family changes things. Your routine has to be flexible. So when Addie is here, my kids might not be here the whole time and Tony might be working but she still comes during the scheduled time or whatever. It means a lot to my boyfriend to have her here with us even if he’s not because he remembers visiting his father and the discomfort of knowing he could only be with his dad’s side when his dad was there. It made him feel like a guest of his father in the home and not a family member. And overall, he got along with his stepmother and stepsister. They were nice but he was his FATHER’S and knowing that made his time there a little awkward. And I kind of get that, although I didn’t even really feel like my dad’s. But it’s that awkwardness in the home, not truly feeling like it’s your home and you’re just visiting that we don’t want his daughter to feel and we’ve avoided it because she’ll call and ask to come when her mom has something going on and is comfortable staying with me.