Now that she had her baby SM is constantly bitching about my kids having their own rooms

[Anonymous 1]

If you were still a family and ran out of rooms with a new baby, I bet they would be sharing then. To expect they maintain their separate bs with another member of the house is ludicrous. You're teaching the wrong message.

I would never have more kids than I would have rooms for them.

Never say never. It happens and it's not going to kill the kids to share. They should be thankful they have a roof over their heads and a father who wants them with him. What are you doing to support them?

I am 100% done having kids so yes I can say never. I NEVER EVER EVER would have had more kids than I had rooms

They are with me half the time and I support them during that time. If you mean emotionally I am there for them anytime they need to talk. They feel completely unwanted at dads house at that point and it has been hard for them

[Momto2boys973]

Well... in the same world that it’s OK for you to be a bitch to your ex and his wife, I guess
I honestly can’t blame her for being resentful. She’s probably doing better than I would if I had to sacrifice a nursery for my baby over 2 spoiled brats and their bitter mommy.

You skipped over the last part of my reply....
It what world is it okay for a SM to bitch constantly at the kids?

Oh, stop hiding behind that “court order” nonsense. You could end that court order in a second if you wanted. Exes who manage to coparent break “court orders” all the time if they’re both in agreement.
It’s a court order, not the Bible. It can be changed when circumstances do if both parties have done good will.

You dont just break a court order because things change. That isnt how it works

It what world is it okay for a SM to bitch constantly at the kids? They feel like she is intentionally trying to get them to not want to go there.

[Anonymous 1]

There isn’t anything wrong with them sharing a room. They are both boys. Work it out with the ex that they will share a room and spend even less time at his house.

They are not both boys.

[Anonymous 1]

I am not bitching at them.

It is never okay to intentionally bitch at children IMO. They dont have control over any of this.

Well... in the same world that it’s OK for you to be a bitch to your ex and his wife, I guess
I honestly can’t blame her for being resentful. She’s probably doing better than I would if I had to sacrifice a nursery for my baby over 2 spoiled brats and their bitter mommy.

You skipped over the last part of my reply....
It what world is it okay for a SM to bitch constantly at the kids?

Oh, stop hiding behind that “court order” nonsense. You could end that court order in a second if you wanted. Exes who manage to coparent break “court orders” all the time if they’re both in agreement.
It’s a court order, not the Bible. It can be changed when circumstances do if both parties have done good will.

[Momto2boys973]

Well, there’s the silver lining of this thread

I would never have more kids than I would have rooms for them.

Never say never. It happens and it's not going to kill the kids to share. They should be thankful they have a roof over their heads and a father who wants them with him. What are you doing to support them?

I am 100% done having kids so yes I can say never. I NEVER EVER EVER would have had more kids than I had rooms

They are with me half the time and I support them during that time. If you mean emotionally I am there for them anytime they need to talk. They feel completely unwanted at dads house at that point and it has been hard for them

[Anonymous 2]

Other than this "room thing" what do your kids say she is bitching about?

You skipped over the last part of my reply....
It what world is it okay for a SM to bitch constantly at the kids?

Oh, stop hiding behind that “court order” nonsense. You could end that court order in a second if you wanted. Exes who manage to coparent break “court orders” all the time if they’re both in agreement.
It’s a court order, not the Bible. It can be changed when circumstances do if both parties have done good will.

You dont just break a court order because things change. That isnt how it works

It what world is it okay for a SM to bitch constantly at the kids? They feel like she is intentionally trying to get them to not want to go there.

[jas]

I would never have more kids than I would have rooms for them.

Never say never. It happens and it's not going to kill the kids to share. They should be thankful they have a roof over their heads and a father who wants them with him. What are you doing to support them?

I am 100% done having kids so yes I can say never. I NEVER EVER EVER would have had more kids than I had rooms

They are with me half the time and I support them during that time. If you mean emotionally I am there for them anytime they need to talk. They feel completely unwanted at dads house at that point and it has been hard for them

Then maybe it would be best if he no longer had 50/50.

[Momto2boys973]

Of course they have control! They could offer to share (and again, save me your “court order” mantra), they could try to find a solution to make it work, they could have a good attitude about it. If there’s someone that has control over this situation is them and you.
And yes, by hiding behind that “court order” to make their lives miserable, you are being a bitch. You’re so looking as the jealous and bitter ex wife here...

I am not bitching at them.

It is never okay to intentionally bitch at children IMO. They dont have control over any of this.

Well... in the same world that it’s OK for you to be a bitch to your ex and his wife, I guess
I honestly can’t blame her for being resentful. She’s probably doing better than I would if I had to sacrifice a nursery for my baby over 2 spoiled brats and their bitter mommy.

You skipped over the last part of my reply....
It what world is it okay for a SM to bitch constantly at the kids?

[BionicBunny]

SM can bitch all she wants. It’s her house. You helped create this situation for your kids. Now fix it by talking to them about sharing a room and giving compromise or just suck it up and hear the bitching.

You dont just break a court order because things change. That isnt how it works

It what world is it okay for a SM to bitch constantly at the kids? They feel like she is intentionally trying to get them to not want to go there.

Things change and circumstances change and you have to roll with the punches and make the best of it.
I always thought it was important for kids to have an extracurricular activity but because of certain circumstances, that’s not a viable possibility now, so tough. They go without that and we make the best of it.

My ex and I (until he changed his mind last year) always felt it was important for them to have their own rooms

At this point they are 15 and 16. They don't want to start sharing a room with each other or with young kids especially when they have their own rooms at my house

[Anonymous 4]

What is wrong with kids sharing a room. My dd decided when she was 16 she wanted to live with her bio. Well it didn't work out because his girlfriend who didn't even have custody of her kids. Only had weekend visitation wanted her two boy, both younger than my dd to share a room. My dd had to sleep on the couch. My dd now has nothing to do with her bio. Kids are fine sharing a room especially if there are other children involved.