Now that she had her baby SM is constantly bitching about my kids having their own rooms

[Anonymous 2]

You sound just like my husband's ex wife. Kids sharing rooms was not acceptable...until she had a new baby of her own and in her house, her kids had to share.

[Anonymous 1]

You dont just break a court order because things change. That isnt how it works

It what world is it okay for a SM to bitch constantly at the kids? They feel like she is intentionally trying to get them to not want to go there.

Things change and circumstances change and you have to roll with the punches and make the best of it.
I always thought it was important for kids to have an extracurricular activity but because of certain circumstances, that’s not a viable possibility now, so tough. They go without that and we make the best of it.

What is wrong with kids sharing a room? There was an article a few years ago about kids having their own rooms makes it harder for them to share when they go to college and out in the real world.

My ex and I (until he changed his mind last year) always felt it was important for them to have their own rooms

At this point they are 15 and 16. They don't want to start sharing a room with each other or with young kids especially when they have their own rooms at my house

[Anonymous 1]

Even IF I had another kid or 2 I have enough rooms for everyone

The court order applies to me also.

You sound just like my husband's ex wife. Kids sharing rooms was not acceptable...until she had a new baby of her own and in her house, her kids had to share.

[Anonymous 3]

I'd put up a temporary wall in the middle of one of the rooms and they could each have one side of the wall as their room.

Good grief the courts or an ex should not have this kind of power over where the furniture in people's houses is placed.

[Anonymous 1]

I'd put up a temporary wall in the middle of one of the rooms and they could each have one side of the wall as their room.

Good grief the courts should not have this kind of power over where the furniture in people's houses is placed.

The rooms are not big enough for that or it would be a good plan. They are small as it is.

I disagree that the courts shouldnt have a say but we are all free to our own opinions.

[Momto2boys973]

Oh, stop hiding behind that “court order” nonsense. You could end that court order in a second if you wanted. Exes who manage to coparent break “court orders” all the time if they’re both in agreement.
It’s a court order, not the Bible. It can be changed when circumstances do if both parties have done good will.

You dont just break a court order because things change. That isnt how it works

It what world is it okay for a SM to bitch constantly at the kids? They feel like she is intentionally trying to get them to not want to go there.

Things change and circumstances change and you have to roll with the punches and make the best of it.
I always thought it was important for kids to have an extracurricular activity but because of certain circumstances, that’s not a viable possibility now, so tough. They go without that and we make the best of it.

My ex and I (until he changed his mind last year) always felt it was important for them to have their own rooms

At this point they are 15 and 16. They don't want to start sharing a room with each other or with young kids especially when they have their own rooms at my house

[Anonymous 3]

I'd put up a temporary wall in the middle of one of the rooms and they could each have one side of the wall as their room.

Good grief the courts should not have this kind of power over where the furniture in people's houses is placed.

The rooms are not big enough for that or it would be a good plan. They are small as it is.

I disagree that the courts shouldnt have a say but we are all free to our own opinions.

If they're big enough for two beds against opposite walls with at least a foot on one side of each, they're big enough to put that wall down the middle and for the kid to climb into the bed.

[jas]

If you were still a family and ran out of rooms with a new baby, I bet they would be sharing then. To expect they maintain their separate accommodations with another member of the house is ludicrous. You're teaching the wrong message.

[Momto2boys973]

Well, it’s easy to have that opinion when the court sided with you. I wonder if that’s how you would feel if they side with your ex.

I'd put up a temporary wall in the middle of one of the rooms and they could each have one side of the wall as their room.

Good grief the courts should not have this kind of power over where the furniture in people's houses is placed.

The rooms are not big enough for that or it would be a good plan. They are small as it is.

I disagree that the courts shouldnt have a say but we are all free to our own opinions.

[Anonymous 1]

You skipped over the last part of my reply....
It what world is it okay for a SM to bitch constantly at the kids?

Oh, stop hiding behind that “court order” nonsense. You could end that court order in a second if you wanted. Exes who manage to coparent break “court orders” all the time if they’re both in agreement.
It’s a court order, not the Bible. It can be changed when circumstances do if both parties have done good will.

You dont just break a court order because things change. That isnt how it works

It what world is it okay for a SM to bitch constantly at the kids? They feel like she is intentionally trying to get them to not want to go there.

Things change and circumstances change and you have to roll with the punches and make the best of it.
I always thought it was important for kids to have an extracurricular activity but because of certain circumstances, that’s not a viable possibility now, so tough. They go without that and we make the best of it.