BM wants me to sit down with her so we can have a conversation about respect
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Her and dh should converse. Not you...
She only uses the car when she is at our house so it really falls under our house rules.Momto2boys973 wrote: ↑Fri Apr 12, 2019 11:17 am Personally, I think choices like cars should be something both parents should agree on.
Obviously with a divorce, there are 2 different homes with 2 different set of rules and as long a single it’s about house rules, they should be respected and the other parent has lo saying in it.
But a car isn’t a house rule and therefore both parents should agree on that.
I do agree with you that this conversation about respect shouldn’t be done with you, though, it should be done with her ex. He’s the one that needs to respect her as the mother of her child and consider her input when making this kind of choices.
DH told her there is nothing more to talk about
Her parents are divorced. Pretty sure a major reason for that is that they don't have the same views and don't always agree. It happens and sometimes things like the OP is a result of that.Olioxenfree wrote: ↑Fri Apr 12, 2019 9:57 am I don't agree in giving a child a car without both parents agreeing to it and being heard.
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I'd have responded with a youtube recording of Aretha singing R-E-S-P-E-C-T and as well as this meme.
I can understand why anyone might want a kid to contribute to the purchase of a car, college tuition, etc., I can also relate to what it feels like to have the stance that "the kid should contribute" but then have my stance dismissed because BM or BD did not agree with my stance. I don't know what the right way to handle that is. But in my case, I just let BM and BD make decisions about their child. But I also told my husband that whatever he decided to do with his kids was not going to dictate what gets done with ours.
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Knowing that BM had this value system, you didn't make any effort to jive with it? That makes no sense to me. I'm a big fan of the don't-start-nothin'-won't-be-nothin' school of thought.
For example, you could have charged to kid $25 a week. And then in a few years when she's shopping for a new car, you gift it back to her. Or it could have been a car repair slush fund.
For example, you could have charged to kid $25 a week. And then in a few years when she's shopping for a new car, you gift it back to her. Or it could have been a car repair slush fund.
Don't text while driving. Don''t text while stopped at stop signs and traffic lights. You're not a four year old...exercise some self-control.
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Some folks just can't be happy without problems.
Don't text while driving. Don''t text while stopped at stop signs and traffic lights. You're not a four year old...exercise some self-control.
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I read that she only uses the car when at your house. Then it is a non issue and no need for conversation.
no need for conversation anyway and I have been a SM and now am a BM.
no need for conversation anyway and I have been a SM and now am a BM.
Honey, I'm the original one-eyed chicklet in the kingdom of the blind, 'cause at least I admit the world makes me nuts.