It doesn't bother me would it bother you?

[caustib]

Some things I agree, I prefer to just do myself. I dont let DH do laundry, because he can't be trusted. But he has to help with other things.

[LiveWhatULove]

Not now, but for many years, I had a lot of resentment about it.

I do a lot more than DH when it comes to child care and household chores. I had 2 choices 1) to find peace that our responsibilities would never be 50/50. 2) to find peace in divorcing or breaking up our family over my sense of injustice over housework & childcare.

I chose the former.

[Gorilla_Mama]

Yes it would. I work full time, plus running the kids to all their activities, I expect dh to help out. For that matter I expect my kids to help out too.

We’re all busy but we all live here, we all need to eat, we all make messes. There’s no reason I should be the only one taking care of these things.

[Shaken1976]

I don’t work but I am a full time student and part of that includes all of these crazy observation hours. We both do things around the house.

[Pjmm]

Yes it was a big problem in my marriage. I'm not into working full time and doing all the cleaning/ cooking. I could be single and do that.

[Kikibix]

There is no rule for anything. I used to be a sahm and by default did more but my dh participated too. I now am back to work and if I’m honest I’ll admit he does a lot more than me around the house. I still do most planning and all financial. We do what we do best.

[Fullxbusymom]

Nope, I feel the same as you do.

[cellomom26]

As long as a couple is happy in the division of labor, that's all that matters.

My DH does all of the grocery shopping, and I do most of the cleaning. I do all the grilling, he makes all the salads. We play to our strengths. It works for us.

[Anonymous 2]

I prefer doing all the cleaning in the house. He could do his share but I would just do it all over again
It saves time if I just do it my way the first time

[RedBottoms]

each couple gets to decide what works for them. So if you like to do it all-that is your choice. For DH and I -we made the agreement before marriage that if I stayed home-I would do all the indoor chores and bill paying and majority of the errands. He was in charge of yard work. If I had to work part time- I would still do most to all of the chores. If I had to work full time or over time-he is taking half of the chores.

He agreed to that. But in practice when I was working over time -he did not do anything around the house. So I quit my job because he did not hold up his end of the deal.