Yes, I would. I’m not saying I’m entitled to their love, BTW. Now, THAT would be entitlement, to think that they have to love me or my child. But those actions speak of a lack of interest. If something like a vacation, which you can take at any moment, is more important to you than the birth of your grandson, then it’s obvious that grandson isn’t something you care much about. And here’s the thing: they’re entitled not to care, they’re not obligated to make my child a priority in their lives if they don’t want to. As O said, entitlement would mean feeling that they have an obligation to love us. They don’t.
When my father got sick with pneumonia, my mom wanted to cancel a trip she had planned with a couple of friends. It was non-refundable and she still didn’t care. She wasn’t going. My dad and I had to beg her to go, I promised I would care for him every day, take him to all his doctor appointments and take food for him every day. She eventually relented and went. But the point is, she showed my dad her love and care by putting him before her vacay. If she had not cared and just go, my dad would’ve felt less loved. And that’s not entitlement. When someone loves you, they’re supposed to make you a priority in their lives, not the afterthought. That’s not entitlement, that’s just common sense.
QuantumNursing wrote: ↑Sun Mar 17, 2019 3:32 pm
Momto2boys973 wrote: ↑Sun Mar 17, 2019 3:20 pm
It’s not entitlement. I never said I would throw a fit or that I would get angry at them. I said I would be hurt. How is that entitlement? I’ve seen how my parents and in laws were when my kids were born and it was wonderful. They were over the moon over it, they would have said “no” to an all expense paid vacation if that meant leaving just 2 weeks after they were born. And it was wonderful not because I’m an entitled brat, but because they showed me with their presence that they were as excited as we were, that this is event was also a huge thing in their lives.
And there’s a difference between living miles away and being right there and leaving. It is sad that many grandparents CAN’T be there when their grandchildren are born. I’m sure that those who CAN’T, wish to be there and are saddened by the fact. It’s a completely different thing. I certainly wouldn’t expect my parents to come to me if they can’t do it. I know they would in a jiffy if they can, though. They wouldn’t miss it for anything short of an actual impossibility.
And for that matter, I also wouldn’t expect them to stay around if the vacation is more important than the birth of their grandchild. We all have our priorities. I said I would be hurt and yes, I would wonder if they’re excited about it and if they want to be involved and caring grandparents when they’re showing that lack of excitement over something that- according to my mother- is the huge dessert of life. I don’t see how that makes me “entitled”. Actions speak louder than words and when someone acts in such a blasé way towards something I was hoping would be exciting for them, then I do have to question if they really care that much about it.
QuantumNursing wrote: ↑Sun Mar 17, 2019 3:08 pm
What the hell.....You would question how loving grandparents would be because of a vacation......That's the exact entitlement I'm talking about...Millions of grandparents live long distance from their grandchildren and are still loving and vary involved. Grandparents should not be expected to put their lives on hold for their kids and grandchildren. They still have lives to live also
So if they aren't right there right after you give birth you would question their love....That's the entitlement.That's the issue. Going on vacation has nothing to do with love. They wouldn't be missing anything. I didn't realize that to be a good grandparent you wouldn't be able to take vacations until your adult children were out of childbearing phase of life
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