Is it rude to ask someone if they want to go back to work?

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Unread post Sat Mar 16, 2019 7:04 pm

A friend of mine were talking about her baby and how shes doing and if shes working and I asked do you want to go back to work.
She looked like she was taken back a little by the question.

Do people not ask this do you think its too personal of a question?
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Unread post Sat Mar 16, 2019 7:05 pm

It’s a question I’m sure tons of working females have been asked. Some do, some don’t.
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Unread post Sat Mar 16, 2019 7:33 pm

I don't think it is but she may be sensitive about it.
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Unread post Sat Mar 16, 2019 7:39 pm

Did she work up until she had the baby? How old I'd said baby? I only ask because I have a friend who said that to her it felt like a question that was rushing her into going back to work, and not really anyone's business. Some have the mind your own business mentality some don't care. She might have felt it wasn't your place to ask.
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Unread post Sat Mar 16, 2019 7:40 pm

Think of the stupid, ugly comments some members in this group have made about SAHM. Your friend may have already heard comments like that and taken it as a criticism even though you didn't mean it that way.
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Unread post Sat Mar 16, 2019 7:40 pm

Maybe she doesn't have a choice and is upset. I don't think it an inappropriate question though
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Unread post Sat Mar 16, 2019 7:42 pm

I see it as normal conversation. I don't know why any reasonable person would take offense.
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Unread post Sat Mar 16, 2019 8:11 pm

I didn’t mind being asked IF I was going back but it did piss me off when people asked WHEN I was going back.
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Unread post Sat Mar 16, 2019 8:40 pm

Valentina327 wrote:
Sat Mar 16, 2019 7:42 pm
I see it as normal conversation. I don't know why any reasonable person would take offense.



It's an intrusive question unless you're close friends with the person you ask.
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Unread post Sat Mar 16, 2019 8:52 pm

Anonymous 2 wrote:
Sat Mar 16, 2019 8:40 pm
Valentina327 wrote:
Sat Mar 16, 2019 7:42 pm
I see it as normal conversation. I don't know why any reasonable person would take offense.



It's an intrusive question unless you're close friends with the person you ask.
It's only intrusive if you're hypersensitive. It's conversation to everyone else.
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