My DH was married when we started dating

[Anonymous 6]

9+6= 15
15-12= 1 year 3 months. That is not too long to wait to start dating. I'm sorry but it just isn't. He could have waited.

OP said they had been separated for 9 months when she met him. Not 1 year 3 months.

I was talking about the amount of time it took for the divorce. He was separated for 9 months when she met him and she stated it tok another 6 months after that for the divorce to be final.
I just feel like when people are newly separated or divorced they should take time to heal and find themselves.

I think that is a more than enough time. I am sure they were done long before he actually moved out and was already healed by the time they met. I don't see that as newly separated.

[Anonymous 6]

Well I have been separated for 4yrs 3mo's. We lead completely separate lives. He lives 30mins from me has a girlfriend that he has lived with for 4yrs and I date too. No biggie that I can see.

[KaiandKadensMama]

Both of my parents were dating their current spouses when married, but separated. You’re right, the divorce process takes FOREVER.

[Anonymous 7]

With that novel long post it sounds like you are trying to justify dating and moving in with a married man just a few months after meeting him.
Thats not something I would do, but you do you.

[Vegaswife2011]

Wow, that was a LOT longer than it needed to be.

Seriously.

[Vegaswife2011]

9+6= 15
15-12= 1 year 3 months. That is not too long to wait to start dating. I'm sorry but it just isn't. He could have waited.

OP said they had been separated for 9 months when she met him. Not 1 year 3 months.

I was talking about the amount of time it took for the divorce. He was separated for 9 months when she met him and she stated it tok another 6 months after that for the divorce to be final.
I just feel like when people are newly separated or divorced they should take time to heal and find themselves.

That’s your opinion.

[leadfoot40]

Wow, that was a LOT longer than it needed to be.

Your comment was a LOT more bitchy than it needed to be.

bitchy? lmao

[AllofFive19]

Wow, that was a LOT longer than it needed to be.

Your comment was a LOT more bitchy than it needed to be.

bitchy? lmao

Telling the truth can be bitchy to some.

[Anonymous 8]

Tldr: my husband was married when we started dating.