Is "pregaming" rude?

[Fullxbusymom]

This sounds so high school......

You all didn't want to wait for the actual party, so you all made your own party. Yeah, I can see how the hostess took offense to that. Like how much food and booze does a person need in one night, that they couldn't hold off on until the party?

I ate and drank the same amount as if I went to a resturant and had a full meal there. It was just more spread out and in two places

8pm is pretty late to be starting things for our group

8 ain't late for a party. Back in the day, our parties didn't start until 9 or 10. And we weren't obnoxious enough to get together before and start our own party. You all should have declined her invite and met some place else.

That is really late to start a party where I am from. Not to mention I don't know anyone that could wait that long to have dinner.

[Deleted User 670]

Boy, she sounds like fun (note sarcasm font). I'm betting she doesn't get invited to many parties.

[Hot4Tchr-Bieg]

I thought pregaming was just drinks, and there's nothing wrong with that, provided you can handle all that booze without getting sloppy. I think a group organizing to eat before going to somebody else's house to eat is pretty tacky.

[Olioxenfree]

Is pregaming rude? No. Is eating before going to someone's house for a meal, making plan that they can't take part in, and telling them all about it, yes that's rude.

[Anonymous 1]

I thought pregaming was just drinks, and there's nothing wrong with that, provided you can handle all that booze without getting sloppy. I think a group organizing to eat before going to somebody else's house to eat is pretty tacky.

Not everyone can wait until 8 pm to eat. I know I was hungry way before that

[Anonymous 1]

Is pregaming rude? No. Is eating before going to someone's house for a meal, making plan that they can't take part in, and telling them all about it, yes that's rude.

So would it have been better to make a group message without her? I doubt she would have liked that either.

Not everyone can wait until 8pm to eat. I cant go a whole 8 hours without eating during the day

[Hot4Tchr-Bieg]

I thought pregaming was just drinks, and there's nothing wrong with that, provided you can handle all that booze without getting sloppy. I think a group organizing to eat before going to somebody else's house to eat is pretty tacky.

Not everyone can wait until 8 pm to eat. I know I was hungry way before that

Okay. Then eat. But don't organize a group of the same people who are going to this late dinner to go eat. Because that's tacky.

[Anonymous 5]

You sound like an alcoholic.

[Anonymous 1]

You sound like an alcoholic.

How exactly?

[sheramom4]

I thought pregaming was just drinks, and there's nothing wrong with that, provided you can handle all that booze without getting sloppy. I think a group organizing to eat before going to somebody else's house to eat is pretty tacky.

Not everyone can wait until 8 pm to eat. I know I was hungry way before that

Then you have a snack at home before you go to the planned portion of the evening. And the "she was just jealous" line is ridiculous. You are a mother (I am assuming) and sound like a teenager. She wasn't jealous, she didn't feel like hosting people who felt the need to have a party before the party.
We "pregamed" in college but we just had a drink or two at home before going out. If we needed to eat we ate.