Who was wrong

[Baconqueen13]

You were both wrong. You can go one day without a shower, and yeah he should have expressed he was looking for a save point in a less aggressive manner.

[Anonymous 2]

He's a jerk and you are being dramatic.

[Anonymous 3]

You started the negativity train when you decided to order him around like a child.
You are talking about him not expressing things well, but you could have expressed it better yourself.

[Anonymous 4]

When my husband can't get to something as quickly as I want him to, I do it myself. As for name calling, people treat you how you allow them to treat you. You've apparently given him the impression that he can call you a dumbass without consequence. My husband's never had the luxury of a thought like that.

[Pjmm]

You lost me at dumbass. My ex would have had his head handed to him for that. That being said you probably need a new faucet if the pull valve is attached to it. I would have taken a quick bath and had him attend to the repair in the morning. Not something I want to do at 9 or 10 pm and usually I do things myself. Or take an evening bath and tell Mr cranky to watch the kids.

[LuckyEightWow]

You both were wrong.

It’s almost 9 pm, nobody wants to be doing plumbing repairs that late when it is something that can wait.

He should have expressed himself better.

[Hot4Tchr-Bieg]

I'm not down with all these "you're both wrong" replies. In my marriage, we answer each other. Ignoring is not okay, it's beyond not okay to do it because of a video game. And for him to go off on you and and claim that you don't need a shower??? That's not a man who behaves like that. He's a child.

[Allycally]

It doesnt matter who is right or wrong...Personally I would have just done it myself or put the kids to sleep and then ask dh to listen for kids and went take a bath....

[Valentina327]

When my husband can't get to something as quickly as I want him to, I do it myself. As for name calling, people treat you how you allow them to treat you. You've apparently given him the impression that he can call you a dumbass without consequence. My husband's never had the luxury of a thought like that.

LOL "the luxury of a thought like that" ... That's awesome! Love it!

[Valentina327]

You could have taken a bath. If your kids cry are they going to melt?

I wouldn't start a major project like that at 9pm either, especially if the next day is a work day. If you're not a pro doing these repairs every day, it's going to take you a bit. You may need another part that you'll have to run out for.

It's not an urgent repair like a toilet being down or a broken pipe where there's water shooting everywhere.

He should not have called you that either. There was nothing that you said that should have prompted a "dumbass" to come out of his mouth. He seems to have been intentionally trying to hurt you.