Because if you truly cared to educate yourself about her condition, you’ll nowadays that’s just a a with most human beings, the alternate personalities are pretty set and predictable. It’s not as if the alternate personalities can suddenly start acting in an uncharacteristic way, just as you wouldn’t suddenly start doing it or I would start doing it. If none of her personalities has shown a proclivity to get violent with children, then she won’t. Regardless of how nasty and potty mouth she gets. There are people out there who are tough and turn violent in a bar, but wouldn’t kick a dog if it pissed on them.
And still, why assume that it will be a disaster? Can’t you give her the chance to participate in a family event without automatically assuming that she’ll have an episode and scare your kids beyond repair?
Anonymous 1 wrote: ↑Wed Feb 12, 2020 1:12 pm I have not personally seen her be physically violent but she has been towards others. She's been arrested multiple times for assault and battery and has physically hurt BIL more than once.
Momto2boys973 wrote: ↑Wed Feb 12, 2020 1:07 pm It’s not self righteousness.
How would YOU feel if you were alienated because of something you have no control over but are trying to deal with? OP didn’t say her SIL was an actual threat, just that a couple of her personalities scream profanities. OMG, the horror.
So what if someone suffers from epilepsy and if they have a seizure, the kids get “scared”? Is it OK then to alienate that family member? Or if they’re diabetic and have sudden crisis? Or have Tourette’s? At what point is “the kids are scared” no longer a good excuse to alienate a loved one who’s trying to seek help?
Why would it be OK to explain to children’s that someone suddenly bursting in violent seizures is just a disease and they shouldn’t be scared, but have compassion and help them, but if that person bursts into cursing because they have multiple personality disorder, it has to
be hidden from them and the person should be ostracized and vilified?
That'swhatshesaid wrote: ↑Wed Feb 12, 2020 1:00 pm Ignore the self righteous hypocrites. Your kids' safety trumps your SIL's hurt feelings.