No, not really. Just disappointed in the 'Here's my advice with a side of snark". I was hoping maybe someone who has gone back to a broken relationship may give some advice. Or someone who never went back and has their own story to tell. I do believe people can change. Doesn't mean he has. I know I have.Anonymom*23/6/364 wrote: ↑Sun Mar 17, 2019 4:08 pm I grew up with abuse.
I would never consider going back to someone like you've described.
You seem disappointed with the responses.
Were you hoping everyone would say this is a wonderful idea?
Here's my story sorry its long Any Advice?
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If he is a narcissist, he has not changed. Think of what this will do your kids.JD80 wrote: ↑Sun Mar 17, 2019 4:23 pmNo, not really. Just disappointed in the 'Here's my advice with a side of snark". I was hoping maybe someone who has gone back to a broken relationship may give some advice. Or someone who never went back and has their own story to tell. I do believe people can change. Doesn't mean he has. I know I have.Anonymom*23/6/364 wrote: ↑Sun Mar 17, 2019 4:08 pm I grew up with abuse.
I would never consider going back to someone like you've described.
You seem disappointed with the responses.
Were you hoping everyone would say this is a wonderful idea?
Good luck with whatever you decide.
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That's why I had to leave. But it hurt. Bad. I didn't want to. I knew if I stayed I could no longer respect myself and I knew he didn't respect me.
But I never stopped loving him. I moved hundreds of miles away because the last time I left he followed and harassed me until I gave in.
He claims he's changed. That he would do anything for us. I know thats what they all say...but he's never said that to me before. idk
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I'm not trying to be discouraging, but there is a very good chance he's playing you again. If he truly is a narcissist then chances are he wants you back because he never expected to lose you in the first place. He expected to be able to keep fooling around and you'd stay. That's how narcissists operate, they play as they've changed, they are so sorry, and that it was a big mistake on their part. More times than not, however, they have not changed, they just don't like to feel like someone saw through them and their mind games. Personally, I'd not move back to him, he could come to visit, but I wouldn't let him suck me back into his games.
Good luck to you.
Good luck to you.
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Thank you. btw you're siggy made me laugh!Anonymom*23/6/364 wrote: ↑Sun Mar 17, 2019 4:26 pmIf he is a narcissist, he has not changed. Think of what this will do your kids.JD80 wrote: ↑Sun Mar 17, 2019 4:23 pmNo, not really. Just disappointed in the 'Here's my advice with a side of snark". I was hoping maybe someone who has gone back to a broken relationship may give some advice. Or someone who never went back and has their own story to tell. I do believe people can change. Doesn't mean he has. I know I have.Anonymom*23/6/364 wrote: ↑Sun Mar 17, 2019 4:08 pm I grew up with abuse.
I would never consider going back to someone like you've described.
You seem disappointed with the responses.
Were you hoping everyone would say this is a wonderful idea?
Good luck with whatever you decide.
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I would never go back to that situation. Do you think that you miss " the person he was before the cheating started" OR do you just miss all of the drama? He is giving you the attention that you wanted and needed before but never received because your asshole cheating dh was too busy F***ing every Mary, Jane and Susan he came across.
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Before I give my thoughts I have 1 question. Has he been in therapy regularly and consistently for at least the past year and a half?
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JD80 wrote: ↑Sun Mar 17, 2019 4:34 pmThank you. btw you're siggy made me laugh!Anonymom*23/6/364 wrote: ↑Sun Mar 17, 2019 4:26 pmIf he is a narcissist, he has not changed. Think of what this will do your kids.JD80 wrote: ↑Sun Mar 17, 2019 4:23 pm
No, not really. Just disappointed in the 'Here's my advice with a side of snark". I was hoping maybe someone who has gone back to a broken relationship may give some advice. Or someone who never went back and has their own story to tell. I do believe people can change. Doesn't mean he has. I know I have.
Good luck with whatever you decide.
You're most welcome and good!