This right here. This is exactly what I was thinking.carterscutie85 wrote: ↑Sun Oct 06, 2019 10:13 amPerhaps the persons she was before was the person she thought she had to be to make everyone else happy. Now she's making herself happy and being her real, true self without any fucks given.Anonymous 1 wrote: ↑Sun Oct 06, 2019 10:11 am To respond to everyone, since no body thinks anything is wrong with the situation.
I have known her for over 20 years, this just isn't like her at all. She was always the one that believed strongly in monogamist relationships, no S*x before marriage. She has always had male friends but never went "out" with them alone, always in a group.
After her divorce, she said she was just going to focus on the kids until they were 18 THEN she might look for someone romantically. Well all of a sudden she has this situation going on.
As for her kids, she goes and does what she wants (2 of them are older teens, one is 12) she will leave them home alone for a few hours and she will take the 12 yo to stay with her mom/dad.
Don't get me wrong, she is still a great mom and makes sure the kids have all their needs met. They have a clean house, food in the kitchen, they are always on the go with their sports/clubs (which she pays for all on her own, since their dad refuses to work or help with anything)
It's just that over the last 6 months or so my friend has changed so much, I worry about her. She up and left a job of 15 years for another. She had never even mentioned to ANYONE that she wasn't happy at her old job, and then BAM. New job in a totally different field, of work. Then she is seeing 2 different guys when she never believed in that. I am just worried about her.
OP - Perhaps your friend was more unhappy in her old life and old ways than she ever let on to anyone. Perhaps this is her embracing who she really wants to be. Or perhaps this is just her exploring and finding herself. Nothing wrong with any of that. But she obviously wasn't happy sticking to her original "plan" or her old ways of living, so why should she continue to do so just to make the rest of you happy?