SD is 23 and has a 5 month old baby. Her and her SO just broke up. She wants to move into our house. I am against it. I dont want a baby in the house. If the baby was coming to visit here and there that is okay, but not all the time. I need to be able to sleep without being woken up by a baby. I have to sleep during the day a lot which would be hard with a baby in the house.
SD is saying she doesnt want to live alone. I understand that would be scary but it isnt a good enough reason for her to move in with us. If it was for a couple weeks while she was finding a place I would be okay with that, but she wants to move in for a year or two.
DH isnt really happy about it I can tell but he would never say anything against it. And before someone tries to make it a SM vs SD situation that isnt the case. My DD wanted to move in once after she had her baby and I told her no too. I love my grandchildren but I dont want them to live with me.
I think things will be tense between SD and me for awhile but she is going to have to get over it.
Sd is not moving into the house with her baby
I doubt if this was your own daughter you would feel the same. But hey gotta make it good for these troll posts!
I am pretty old. Way too old to deal with a baby every single day. We have been empty nesters for 5 years. I dont want to go back to having kids in the house
I'll be honest. I'd have sympathy for the girl. But I wouldn't want her and her baby moving in.
Anonymous 1 wrote: ↑Thu Sep 19, 2019 4:53 pm SD is 23 and has a 5 month old baby. Her and her SO just broke up. She wants to move into our house. I am against it. I dont want a baby in the house. If the baby was coming to visit here and there that is okay, but not all the time. I need to be able to sleep without being woken up by a baby. I have to sleep during the day a lot which would be hard with a baby in the house.
SD is saying she doesnt want to live alone. I understand that would be scary but it isnt a good enough reason for her to move in with us. If it was for a couple weeks while she was finding a place I would be okay with that, but she wants to move in for a year or two.
DH isnt really happy about it I can tell but he would never say anything against it. And before someone tries to make it a SM vs SD situation that isnt the case. My DD wanted to move in once after she had her baby and I told her no too. I love my grandchildren but I dont want them to live with me.
I think things will be tense between SD and me for awhile but she is going to have to get over it.
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I hope she finds some living arrangement that works out for her!
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I don't blame you one bit.
She is 23 and doesn't want to live alone? I don't get that part. She is an adult, time to grow up.
She is 23 and doesn't want to live alone? I don't get that part. She is an adult, time to grow up.
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In this situation if I did not feel she could move in I would assist her in finding a nearby rental and subsidize it if needed. Of course Father should also be supporting the child, and the rental should be something she can pay for on her own within a year or two when she is on her feet.
She doesn't need help paying for it but I'd help if she did.MonarchMom wrote: ↑Thu Sep 19, 2019 5:30 pm In this situation if I did not feel she could move in I would assist her in finding a nearby rental and subsidize it if needed. Of course Father should also be supporting the child, and the rental should be something she can pay for on her own within a year or two when she is on her feet.
She has a good paying job