PoplarGrove wrote: ↑Tue Apr 23, 2019 11:44 amFor those who have always lived in relative safety it probably is a hard concept to grasp. "Well, I would have left the first time he hit me" - by the time he first hits you he's already convinced you that you're worthless and deserve it. Abusers pick their victims. They aren't going for a woman who has a strong will and character that will put up with the beginnings of abuse. He goes for women who through mental illness or conditioning will allow him to treat her the way he does. He chooses a woman who probably has few close (and especially strong) friends and family. And then she's afraid to tell anyone what's happening because she knows what women like many on this board would say.LuckyEightWow wrote: ↑Tue Apr 23, 2019 11:26 am I don’t think it’s a hard concept to understand, but I guess it is for some.
This is accurate, I was one of those people who infa man ever hit me one time I'd be gone, but I wasnt why because I felt like I deserved it, I felt like I had to stay because I was having his child and frankly the only people he let me interact with was his parents and his mom thinks even to this day he is the perfect son. They cut you off from.everything you know, make threats about how they cant live with out you, if you leave theyll kill themselves and make sure everyone knows it was your fault etc and no one wants that on their conscience