QuantumNursing wrote: ↑Tue Apr 09, 2019 7:59 amI hate to judge anyone who does make that choice though. Something I have learned through therapy and support groups is that its always the little thing that makes people walk away. After years and years of complete bs its literally the smallest of smallest thing that makes the person break. That makes someone go thats it. Im F***ing done with this. If I cant trust you with the smallest thing then how can I for the bigger thing. Kwim?Valentina327 wrote: ↑Tue Apr 09, 2019 7:53 amNot always. There are people that are completely toxic and will ruin anyone and anything around them. They don't deserve a relationship with their own child or grandchild. Your mother would be one of those. There's a massive difference between the circumstances with your family and others who get their nose out of joint over a perceived slight or a parent giving them a piece of unsolicited advice.QuantumNursing wrote: ↑Mon Apr 08, 2019 9:20 pm
There is such a stigma against people who have cut off their families. It's always be the bigger person,she gave birth to you,she fed you,that's how she is,she's still your mom..It's ridiculous. Them we get your a pos for doing that. So what wishes stole your child's San and bought 9000 dollars worth of leggings. You should just pay it because she's your mom. Or it's your kids fault he shouldn't have pressed charges. People don't think that when one chooses to walk away from family it's on a whim. It's a minor thing to get upset over. What they don't realize is that it's usually a minor thing on top of all the horrible things in the past. They don't realize the grief we go through. We grieve for that relationship lost and we grieve for the relationships to never come. It's painful all the way around it's filled with pain. The pain of the past,the pain of the now and the pain of the future
I'm so sorry that you've had the experiences that you have. No one should have that kind of crap to deal with from a parent. Decisions like you've had to make aren't undertaken lightly.
That's how my DIL ended up cutting off her mother. Her life has been infinitely better since she removed her toxic mother from it.