How we raise men

[Hot4Tchr-Bieg]

Are we, as women, raising our sons to be entitled and unreasonable?

Are we raising our daughters to take on the role of accommodating unreasonable men?



Reading the replies in the DH-won't-wear-a-condom-or-get-a-vasectomy post really has me thinking that yes...we are. Just like our mothers and our grandmothers did.

[QuantumNursing]

I'm not

[Bubbs]

I’m definitely not.

[Anonymous 1]

I don’t think so. Some of the women in that thread were nuts. If DH’s options are wear a condom or don’t have S*x, there is no question - he’s going to put on a condom.

[Deleted User 1344]

Are we, as women, raising our sons to be entitled and unreasonable?

Are we raising our daughters to take on the role of accommodating unreasonable men?



Reading the replies in the DH-won't-wear-a-condom-or-get-a-vasectomy post really has me thinking that yes...we are. Just like our mothers and our grandmothers did.

Nope!
My son decided on his own that the best option was a vasectomy, knowing it’s much easier than his wife having her tubes tied.
That’s just one example though.
His wife thanked me a few years ago for raising him to be in favor of equality and kindness, rather than the old fashioned patriarchal, controlling behavior that says: “ I’m a man, I’m in charge” kind of philosophy !

[Maggie]

No, a few post on CM doesn’t equal everyone.

[Fullxbusymom]

No but I also feel if I was the one who didn't want children I would be getting my tubes tied and not expecting my husband to have to get a vasectomy. My ex and I discussed it when the time came and he simply wasn't ready for that and I was certain that I was so it was a no brainer for me to get my tubes tied.

[Anonymous 2]

100% no way

[Hot4Tchr-Bieg]

I don’t think so. Some of the women in that thread were nuts. If DH’s options are wear a condom or don’t have S*x, there is no question - he’s going to put on a condom.

I mean, the way you've written the sentence, it sounds a little controlling. And that was also a common theme in the thread...a woman who insists that her husband wear a condom is too controlling. But what exactly is unreasonable about the expectation???

I PRAY that I've raised a son who will wear them and a daughter who will be "controlling" enough to expect her partners to wear them.

[Hot4Tchr-Bieg]

No, a few post on CM doesn’t equal everyone.

You're right. But it's an interesting little peekhole into worlds I wouldn't otherwise get to see.