Orgasm from S*x?

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Is this just me or what...I don't always have an orgasm when I have S*x with my boyfriend. It feels good but half the time I don't experience the big O. I can get myself off just fine but it's a different story when I'm with my boyfriend.
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I would never settle for someone who can't make me orgasm several times when we have S*x.
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Anonymous 2 wrote: Sat Oct 12, 2019 12:13 pm I would never settle for someone who can't make me orgasm several times when we have S*x.
Do you think it's just him? He lasts for about 13 minutes or so. We try different positions but I just can't have one for some reason. I've only orgasmed a few times with him. Of course, he has no problem having them but I leave feeling unsatisfied.
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Anonymous 1 wrote: Sat Oct 12, 2019 12:22 pm
Anonymous 2 wrote: Sat Oct 12, 2019 12:13 pm I would never settle for someone who can't make me orgasm several times when we have S*x.
Do you think it's just him? He lasts for about 13 minutes or so. We try different positions but I just can't have one for some reason. I've only orgasmed a few times with him. Of course, he has no problem having them but I leave feeling unsatisfied.

13 minutes??? We'd be working on him getting some endurance. 🤣🤣 And learning how to please you. That's his job. Sounds like he doesn't know that.
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Smarties wrote: Sat Oct 12, 2019 12:41 pm
Anonymous 1 wrote: Sat Oct 12, 2019 12:22 pm
Anonymous 2 wrote: Sat Oct 12, 2019 12:13 pm I would never settle for someone who can't make me orgasm several times when we have S*x.
Do you think it's just him? He lasts for about 13 minutes or so. We try different positions but I just can't have one for some reason. I've only orgasmed a few times with him. Of course, he has no problem having them but I leave feeling unsatisfied.

13 minutes??? We'd be working on him getting some endurance. 🤣🤣 And learning how to please you. That's his job. Sounds like he doesn't know that.
He is the first one that has lasted even that long. Most of the guys I've dated last for maybe 10 minutes. Maybe it's the age? He's 28 .Hmmm..
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I've never had an orgasm from intercourse but I have multiple orgasms from oral and being stimulated by my husband's hands. It sounds like your boyfriend needs to slow down and give you some focused attention.
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I never orgasm during S*x. I have to do oral or by hands. It is very normal not to be able too. I don't think he is too fast to orgasm himself just that he or you need to play with yourself during that time so you both orgasm.
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Anonymous 1 wrote: Sat Oct 12, 2019 1:27 pm
Smarties wrote: Sat Oct 12, 2019 12:41 pm
Anonymous 1 wrote: Sat Oct 12, 2019 12:22 pm

Do you think it's just him? He lasts for about 13 minutes or so. We try different positions but I just can't have one for some reason. I've only orgasmed a few times with him. Of course, he has no problem having them but I leave feeling unsatisfied.

13 minutes??? We'd be working on him getting some endurance. 🤣🤣 And learning how to please you. That's his job. Sounds like he doesn't know that.
He is the first one that has lasted even that long. Most of the guys I've dated last for maybe 10 minutes. Maybe it's the age? He's 28 .Hmmm..

I don't know if that's young or old to you.... but its young to me. He needs some "training." The best S*x in my opinion is when each person really puts in the effort to learn the other person. And its not about the destination... its about the journey AND the destination, which I typically want to last a lot longer than 13 minutes myself. All the leading up to things is super important. Hopefully he's eager to learn. Best of luck.
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If he truly wants to make you orgasm, The g-spot is real. I ride my dh until I can't ride him anymore, then it's his turn to orgasm.
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Most women can’t orgasm from penetration alone, so don’t let the uneducated women here make you feel like something is wrong with you or your partner. It’s not lack of skill, size, caring, etc. It just won’t happen that way for most of us.

The key is finding what will be satisfying for both of you. Don’t assume that you are supposed to magically be able to do something just because someone else’s body works that way, and don’t think that you are doing it wrong. Also, longer duration does NOT mean better quality unless that’s what you enjoy. I personally do NOT want an hour-long penetration session. Ive done the marathon thing and I don’t like it. I don’t maintain arousal that long and it gets uncomfortable, and even with pressing on with lube, I just don't get anything more out of longer sessions. I would not be compatible with someone who couldn’t or didn’t want to finish within 30 minutes max. It took years to convince DH of that, though. Porn and misinformation have spread a lot of misconceptions about S*x, and both men and women feel pressured to have S*x a certain way. If that’s what really works for you, cool! Do it. Enjoy it. It doesn’t work for most people, and that’s not what most people want.

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Do you have any decent S*x stores in your area? Like ones that actually have educated staff and good quality products? If not, there are also some really good websites that can give you suggestions for enhancing your experience together. Clitoral stimulation is the key for most of us, whether from our partner, ourselves, or a toy. Personally, I have to use a vibrator to orgasm. Always have. Maybe twice in my life have I been able to orgasm by myself without one, and never once has a partner been able to do it no matter how experienced, skilled, or determined they are. Honestly, I used to hate it when men would fixate on that. I didn’t enjoy the pressure of feeling like I had to orgasm every time in order for S*x to be complete or satisfying or “right.” I masturbate and have plenty of orgasms on my own, sometimes I do it during S*x as well, but often I don’t. It still feels good and I’m still satisfied with my S*x life without orgasming every time. You just need to find what you enjoy and don’t let other people with other preferences and different bodies and relationships tell you what S*x is “supposed” to be like.
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