My fiance doesnt want any more kids...
Having a kid IS alot. And why should he have to think about it? Youre not thinking about his position in it, just like you feel like he's not thinking about yours. You have to decide if this is the dealbreaker or not. Having 5 kids total is A LOT.
And he thinks you really need to think about not having 1 more kid.Anonymous 1 wrote: ↑Sun Nov 18, 2018 2:42 pmI dont want to lose him. But I think he really needs to think about having 1 more kid.TheMomster wrote: ↑Sun Nov 18, 2018 2:30 pm One kid is A LOT when you don't want more. You need to decide if this is a deal breaker for you. I know I do not want anymore so if I was with someone who did I would reconsider where the relationship was going.
He's thought about it and the answer is no.Anonymous 1 wrote: ↑Sun Nov 18, 2018 2:42 pmI dont want to lose him. But I think he really needs to think about having 1 more kid.TheMomster wrote: ↑Sun Nov 18, 2018 2:30 pm One kid is A LOT when you don't want more. You need to decide if this is a deal breaker for you. I know I do not want anymore so if I was with someone who did I would reconsider where the relationship was going.
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Why? Why should he? He has 4 kids and he's done. If you're not done then you may not want to get married. Do you want him or another baby?Anonymous 1 wrote: ↑Sun Nov 18, 2018 2:42 pmI dont want to lose him. But I think he really needs to think about having 1 more kid.TheMomster wrote: ↑Sun Nov 18, 2018 2:30 pm One kid is A LOT when you don't want more. You need to decide if this is a deal breaker for you. I know I do not want anymore so if I was with someone who did I would reconsider where the relationship was going.
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One more wife isn't a lot more. Oh wait, it is. He can reconsider that number when he splits up from you because you tricked him into one more kid.mcginnisc wrote: ↑Sun Nov 18, 2018 2:52 pm He already has 3 bio kids and your bio child.. one more would be 4 bio kids for him. He obviously does not want that. He does not have to think about it. He gave you an answer. You either have to live with it and walk away or live with it and stay. Those are your options.
You can find a partner who wants a(nother) child.
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Or you need to rethink not having another kid. Could you guys support 5 kidsAnonymous 1 wrote: ↑Sun Nov 18, 2018 2:42 pmI dont want to lose him. But I think he really needs to think about having 1 more kid.TheMomster wrote: ↑Sun Nov 18, 2018 2:30 pm One kid is A LOT when you don't want more. You need to decide if this is a deal breaker for you. I know I do not want anymore so if I was with someone who did I would reconsider where the relationship was going.
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Fact is if you aren't going to be okay never having another kid then you shouldn't get married. If you can go in knowing you wish you could have another, but being fine with the fact you probably won't that's one thing. But if you go in having your heart set on him changing his mind, or plan to make it an issue, then it's not going to work out well for you.
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He doesn't want more children, and that is his right. I understand you'd like another child, but this should have been discussed prior to getting engaged. Then you guys would have both been on the same page. Now you need to decide if you can live with the kids you already have, or if it's a dealbreaker.
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He said no, there is nothing for him to think about. Either accept it, or move on and find someone who is open to more kids.