BM isn't letting my step kids to to school

[Anonymous 1]

I never said I had a vote. Why does she get to make the final decision?

Keep changing it to suit. Mom, the one who gave birth to them gave the final decision. If your husband wants have him take it to court-but as you said that won’t happen by 9/1. They aren’t your kids, you get no vote.

They live with her half the time and with us half the time. That is what 50/50 means.

They LIVE with HER. Was that made simple enough now? If they lived with their Dad then I’d say he gets to make the decision but they don’t. Sorry, you won’t get me to sway.

[SummerDream]

If the kids are old enough, dropping out is also an option.

[Momto2boys973]

I agree. But apparently that’s not happening.
So again, what’s your suggested solution?

No I'm saying it should have been a decision made together.

There could have been a compromise reached.

But you seem fine and dandy with your husband making the decision regardless of mom’s input.
So what’s your solution then if neither parent should have the final saying? And neither do the kids, BTW.

The school is putting safety first also. One person shouldn't get to make the final say when there are two parents involved.

[Anonymous 1]

If the kids are old enough, dropping out is also an option.

That is honestly a fear of mine. They are both over the compulsory age so school can't be forced on them. I would hate for them to rebel and not so school at all.

[Momto2boys973]

A decision has to be reached. And apparently it’s either hers or his because obviously they can’t coparent properly.
IMHO, the decision with the least amount of risk should take precedence.

I never said I had a vote. Why does she get to make the final decision?

Keep changing it to suit. Mom, the one who gave birth to them gave the final decision. If your husband wants have him take it to court-but as you said that won’t happen by 9/1. They aren’t your kids, you get no vote.

They live with her half the time and with us half the time. That is what 50/50 means.

[Anonymous 2]

I mean whatever you certainly have the right to do what you feel is best. It's just that I have seen you in many posts cite the CDC when it comes to masks, closures, washing your food and mail etc but THIS they are wrong on. LOL.

Yes, it means nothing to me. Everything has opened prematurely, so no, I don’t trust that their motivation is exclusively safety. They are considero no other factors to make those recommendations.
And ultimately, the school will make the final choice taking into account the factors relevant to them, not general guidelines for a whole country. They have the added responsibility of having some out of town and international students in a dorm and they have to ensure their health and safety first.
If in a month they decide it’s safe to open the school for actual classes even for out-of-towners then I will trust that they’re doing it because it’s safe.

So the CDC (and AAP) recommendations that schools be open for children means nothing to you? Do you not trust the CDC?
https://www.cdc.gov/coronavirus/2019-nc ... hools.html

But he’s not weighing the pros and cons. He’s catering to his kids’ wants. When the “pro” is what the kid wants and the “con” is a health risk, it’s really a no-brainer.

[Momto2boys973]

Are they that stupid to give up their education over having to take online classes for a while?

If the kids are old enough, dropping out is also an option.

That is honestly a fear of mine. They are both over the compulsory age so school can't be forced on them. I would hate for them to rebel and not so school at all.

[Anonymous 1]

I agree. But apparently that’s not happening.
So again, what’s your suggested solution?

No I'm saying it should have been a decision made together.

There could have been a compromise reached.

But you seem fine and dandy with your husband making the decision regardless of mom’s input.
So what’s your solution then if neither parent should have the final saying? And neither do the kids, BTW.

BM, DH, and the kids sitting down and talking it through. That way everyone is heard and then a decision could be reached after hearing everyone and their reasons. I think that would be far better even if the end result, the kids not going to school, would be the same because at l set they would be heard and they can see where BM is coming from.

[SummerDream]

If the kids are old enough, dropping out is also an option.

That is honestly a fear of mine. They are both over the compulsory age so school can't be forced on them. I would hate for them to rebel and not so school at all.

That is where this is headed, if step-mom don’t let them make a choice as to what option to go with to go back to school. There should be several options to choose from to start. If step-mom doesn’t pull her head out of her backside and make a decision, at some point, the kids are going to say, we don’t want to go back. Quite honestly, at the high school level, it would be much easier to get the kids to follow new rules at school, so I don’t see an issue of the kids going back if they want to.

[Anonymous 1]

I hope not but teenagers do stupid things when they rebel.

SD has mentioned dropping out and getting her GED.

Are they that stupid to give up their education over having to take online classes for a while?

If the kids are old enough, dropping out is also an option.

That is honestly a fear of mine. They are both over the compulsory age so school can't be forced on them. I would hate for them to rebel and not so school at all.