Forgetful people

[Anonymous 1]

If someone is “forgetful” quite often/most of the time to any type of invite (even after reminding them) do you continue to keep inviting them to things?

[Frau Holle]

Yes, why wouldn’t I ?
If I actually want them there and they are forgetting, reminding them makes it more likely they will come.

[Vegaswife2011]

Definitely.

[Anonymous 1]

I do remind them and they still “forget”. That’s what makes it more frustrating. It’s so easy nowadays to set your own reminders on your phone and things like that. I feel if someone truly wanted to be there, they would make more of an effort to remember.

Yes, why wouldn’t I ?
If I actually want them there and they are forgetting, reminding them makes it more likely they will come.

[Emmasmom]

No. Its rude behavior. And I'd tell them why I stopped inviting them. " if it/I were important to you, you'd try harder." I donr put up with that or people being late.

[Anonymous 1]

I show up to things she invites us to with no reminders. Not sure why it’s so hard for her to do the same. I probably won’t tell her why no more invites and she won’t notice or care.

quote=Emmasmom post_id=755816 time=1594147324 user_id=1360]
No. Its rude behavior. And I'd tell them why I stopped inviting them. " if it/I were important to you, you'd try harder." I donr put up with that or people being late.
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[Anonymous 2]

I tend to agree with you...that if it's important to the invitee, he/she will make a note of the gathering so that they are sure to attend. But if I'm you and I really would like that person to attend, I continue to invite them, and invite them, and invite them. For me, as the one doing the inviting, it would take a lot for me to remove someone from my guest list.

I do remind them and they still “forget”. That’s what makes it more frustrating. It’s so easy nowadays to set your own reminders on your phone and things like that. I feel if someone truly wanted to be there, they would make more of an effort to remember.

Yes, why wouldn’t I ?
If I actually want them there and they are forgetting, reminding them makes it more likely they will come.

[carterscutie85]

Sounds like they don't want to go to whatever you are inviting them to.

Some people have a valid reason to be forgetful. ADD/ADHD is one.

[Emmasmom]

I show up to things she invites us to with no reminders. Not sure why it’s so hard for her to do the same. I probably won’t tell her why no more invites and she won’t notice or care.

quote=Emmasmom post_id=755816 time=1594147324 user_id=1360]
No. Its rude behavior. And I'd tell them why I stopped inviting them. " if it/I were important to you, you'd try harder." I donr put up with that or people being late.

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Behavior cant changed if its ignored. You need to tell them why so they can try and make adjustments. If you're really friends, give them that much. And if things don't change, you know you tries

[Anonymous 3]

yes I would. My brother can't remember birthdays, party dates or the actual day upcoming holidays are on (If the 4th falls on a Tuesday type thing). I always call/text to remind him & I do it multiple times the closer it gets to the day he needs to remember.