My daughter had her fourth family birthday party last night. My SIL showed up and made a scene. DH and I do not allow her around our kids. She has dissociative Identity disorder formally known as multiple personality disorder.
Sometimes she is perfectly fine but she can act completely different and erratically. One of her alters is an unruly teenager (her words) and will yell, scream, and cuss. One of her alters is male and also says obsene things.
She scares our kids. We did explain to her that we don't want her around the kids. It didn't go well but we were honest with her.
She has told us that she has been trying so hard to be better but the reality is that it doesn't matter how much she tries, she has a mental disorder and she doesn't have full control. It is too much of a risk for us.
She showed up at the house and freaked out when DH told her to leave. It was almost to the point that we were considering calling the cops before BIL showed up and dragged her out himself. This is just further proof to us of how she is not safe for our kids to be around.
SIL showed up at DD's bday party when she knew she wasn't allowed
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Well, for you your priority is your kids’ safety. So do what you have to do.
But I feel bad for her. She has a mental disorder and she’s being alienated for it and have no support system whatsoever. It must be terrible for her.
But I feel bad for her. She has a mental disorder and she’s being alienated for it and have no support system whatsoever. It must be terrible for her.
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Yeah, if this is even true, you suck. There are ways to ensure the kids Safety without alienating a family member for their medical condition.
I feel bad for her too but there is only so much I can do to keep my kids safe. It isn't something she or anyone else can predict it control. We have never really even been able to get to know her.Momto2boys973 wrote: ↑Wed Feb 12, 2020 12:37 pm Well, for you your priority is your kids’ safety. So do what you have to do.
But I feel bad for her. She has a mental disorder and she’s being alienated for it and have no support system whatsoever. It must be terrible for her.
She does have a good support system from her family and all of the health care providers she works with.
How can I ensure that my kids won't hear her yell, scream, and say disgusting things?Olioxenfree wrote: ↑Wed Feb 12, 2020 12:40 pm Yeah, if this is even true, you suck. There are ways to ensure the kids Safety without alienating a family member for their medical condition.
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And it’s because of views like this that mental health care is so deficient. Because ignorant people still think it’s an “act” and something people need to just get over with.
Anonymous 2 wrote: ↑Wed Feb 12, 2020 12:25 pm Maybe she should learn not to be dramatic and lie for attention then.
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