Be honest, if you could go back in time to before you had children would you still have children?

If you could do it over again would you still have kids?

Yes
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No
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Nope.
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Yes for many reasons.

I am a better person, less selfish, humbled and more tolerant of others since becoming a parent. I shudder at how self-absorbed and judgmental I was pre-kids, maybe some of that positive change would have came with age, but I think much of it comes from raising children with unique needs.

On bad days, I worry they should have a different or better mom or dad, but never been born? No, now that I know my kids and see their journey, I cannot imagine our little world without the impression they make, so absolutely, couldn’t imagine how could one go back and say you wish they were never here.
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I would. I think I'd do things differently with their father though.
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Yes. I love my children dearly and have never regretted having them when and how I did.
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No regrets.
The oranges of the island are like blazing fire
Amongst the emerald boughs
And the lemons are like the paleness of a lover
Who has spent the night crying.


My soul was ripped to shreds on 10/27/14
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I have no desire to go back in time and redo any part of my life. I have no regrets.
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Yes...My daughter is a lot like me(chilled). I should have had more kids..lol!!
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I love my son. However, if I could go back in time , I’d probably have one more. He is our pride and joy.
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Hard to say. I mean, I knew that I wasn't exactly in a good place to become a parent when I did, and I still chose to keep the pregnancy. But I am willing to admit that I perhaps way underestimated how difficult it would be. My life could have been so much easier if I never had a kid. If I could go back in time knowing what I know, would I still choose it? Who knows.

Let's put it this way. I always believed that the sum of all our experiences is what makes us who we are, so I like to imagine that I wouldn't change anything. But at the same time, I'm not enough of a hypocrite to pretend like I can't imagine my life if I'd never become a mom or had my son. I absolutely can, and it would have been one hell of an easier life than the one I've had. Better? Probably. Would I take the risk of finding out when I know that the life I have turns out okay in the end? Probably not.
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Yes if anything I would have had more. And I would have learned to stand up for my children earlier.
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