Anonymous 1 wrote: ↑Tue Oct 22, 2019 8:48 pm
I’m over it. I can’t tell what’s real and what’s not.
He’s in preschool, FYI. He will start kindergarten next year.
Parents are the most important teachers their children have. The kids learn more from their parents than most people realize. If you lie and teach your child to lie, this is the result.
I don’t lie to my child. I do occasionally make an idle threat, but I’m pretty sure I’m not alone in that
At that age, kids don't realize they are lying. They see things how they want the outcome to be and they also have huge imaginations. You have to just keep talking to them.
He's four. That's very common, especially if he has a vivid imagination. You should write his stories down. Who knows, you might have a novelist in training.
He is not lying, not in the sense that an adult would define lying. He is just pretending, so you turn it around and use it, have the child draw a story, etc. Then went he gets older you ask "is that what really happened or is that what you wanted to happen?". It allows them to learn to self correct, and gives them a clearer picture of what is real and what is not.
Anonymous 2 wrote: ↑Tue Oct 22, 2019 8:50 pmBecause you allow it
How do I prevent it?
This. I mean who knows? He could write the great American novel someday. I'd be the one to laugh and listen to it. Now if he's lying to get out of trouble that's a different problem.
Unless he's saying things that would get someone in trouble let the child's imagination flourish. The world will do it's best to beat that out of him soon enough.
My son used to come up with some doozies. He wasn’t lying But came up with some interesting stuff. One that sticks out was all the things that he did with someone named grandfather who may have been a cowboy based on his description. Which was actually a very vivid description. He would tell me he did these things with grandfather when he was younger before he was in my belly. They had some wild adventures now he’s 23 and doesn’t remember grandfather.
It's time we stop
Hey, what's that sound?
Everybody look, what's going down?
Toddlers lie; it's just what they do sometimes, but usually it is because of their imagination. But they should be becoming out of it by preschool in my opinion. I definitely would not accept lying from a grade schooler. Been there with the lying and, specially with our oldest, it was something we had to workout with her.
