I am not paying BM child support

[Anonymous 1]

1-yes he should file a modification in court if his circumstances have changed drastically.

2- Stop being a BM detective. You have no idea what she is spending the support on.

Exactly.

Here's the way the law sees it: If BM and your DH were still together, both parents would be contributing their full share toward the cost of raising the children, and they would naturally have "equal" custody. Just because they are no longer together does not mean he should magically get out of supporting the children he helped bring into the world. That includes housing, clothing, medical care, extracurriculars, schooling, etc. ad nauseum. And it's none of your business what she does with the money so long as the kids are being provided for. Even if her boyfriend is paying for all those things, the money is coming out of *their* income, and the support your DH has to pay is meant to reimburse for that. If you don't have the emotional maturity to accept that it's a GOOD thing for a man to actually live up to his responsibility to provide for children he has with someone else, then you should not have married him.

They have equal custody so how is he getting out of supporting his kids? Why should DH support them more than BM? Why does she get reimbursement and not DH?

It seems to me that you need to learn how to read and comprehend.

[Anonymous 1]

You married a winner if he would rather have you pay his CS than pay it with his savings.

He doesnt like dipping into savings. I understand that to an extent. I dont want him to touch it for anything else but I am absolutely not paying child support.

Oh well, eventually, the state will seize his bank account.

No they won't.

[WickedPissah]

He doesnt like dipping into savings. I understand that to an extent. I dont want him to touch it for anything else but I am absolutely not paying child support.

Oh well, eventually, the state will seize his bank account.

No they won't.

If his child support goes through the state they will eventually seize it.

I got a big chunk of money before Christmas one year than got his tax refund cha-ching.

[Anonymous 5]

1-yes he should file a modification in court if his circumstances have changed drastically.

2- Stop being a BM detective. You have no idea what she is spending the support on.

Exactly.

Here's the way the law sees it: If BM and your DH were still together, both parents would be contributing their full share toward the cost of raising the children, and they would naturally have "equal" custody. Just because they are no longer together does not mean he should magically get out of supporting the children he helped bring into the world. That includes housing, clothing, medical care, extracurriculars, schooling, etc. ad nauseum. And it's none of your business what she does with the money so long as the kids are being provided for. Even if her boyfriend is paying for all those things, the money is coming out of *their* income, and the support your DH has to pay is meant to reimburse for that. If you don't have the emotional maturity to accept that it's a GOOD thing for a man to actually live up to his responsibility to provide for children he has with someone else, then you should not have married him.

No op but according to op they have 50/50 so technically if he is paying child support with 50/50;he is doing his part on his Time and he is paying her part too. How Is that being equal why is she getting reimbursement to support her kids on her time

[BionicBunny]

It isn’t right that they have joint custody and he still has to pay her child support that she brags about using on herself as her live in boyfriend pays all the bills. The child is obviously getting the care it needs. The child is provided for by both. There should be no need for child support if she doesn’t have primary custody. I would fight it. Go back to court and if you have any proof that she is bragging about using the money in herself bring that proof.

[Anonymous 1]

Oh well, eventually, the state will seize his bank account.

No they won't.

If his child support goes through the state they will eventually seize it.

I got a big chunk of money before Christmas one year than got his tax refund cha-ching.

Why would the seize anything?

[WickedPissah]

No they won't.

If his child support goes through the state they will eventually seize it.

I got a big chunk of money before Christmas one year than got his tax refund cha-ching.

Why would the seize anything?

If it goes through the state and he doesn't pay and doesn't set up a payment plan they take it.

[Anonymous 1]

If his child support goes through the state they will eventually seize it.

I got a big chunk of money before Christmas one year than got his tax refund cha-ching.

Why would the seize anything?

If it goes through the state and he doesn't pay and doesn't set up a payment plan they take it.

That isn't how it works.

[WickedPissah]

Why would the seize anything?

If it goes through the state and he doesn't pay and doesn't set up a payment plan they take it.

That isn't how it works.

Ahhh then i got a big chunk of money by mistake.

[Anonymous 1]

If it goes through the state and he doesn't pay and doesn't set up a payment plan they take it.

That isn't how it works.

Ahhh then i got a big chunk of money by mistake.

DH is paying I never once said he wasn't.