I dont care if she bought a plane ticket, she is still not staying with us

[MrsDavidB]

Dh will let her stay regardless.

But its cute that you think you have some say.

How dumb. I would have complete say lol. Would not happen in my home.

I don't recall asking you.

Don’t care lol. This is a message board. People post stuff then people reply. Are you new here?

[Anonymous 4]

She's gonna have to follow that up with:



and this



and this

What are you going to do when the doorbell rings and it's her at the door?

Not answer it.

That's it?

[Anonymous 5]

How dumb. I would have complete say lol. Would not happen in my home.

Why wouldn’t your DH have equal say? I don’t think anyone would want a house guest for 2 months, but they is certainly a compromise available here. I would never tell my DH his mother couldn’t come, but I would offer suggestions about how long she should stay.

Because he just doesn’t. I run things around here. From cleaning to what we have for dinner to house guests. MIL would certainly be welcome to visit a new baby but to stay there for 2 months? Hell no. I have my routine.

Ha - you remind me of a number of my friends that are very smart, but have spent a lot of their lives as SAHMs. They try to channel all of that intelligence into managing their households or PTA type stuff!

In case I need to say this - it’s not a bash, it’s a compliment.

[LuckyEightWow]

This has already been done, and done, and done, and done, and done, and done.

[MrsDavidB]

Why wouldn’t your DH have equal say? I don’t think anyone would want a house guest for 2 months, but they is certainly a compromise available here. I would never tell my DH his mother couldn’t come, but I would offer suggestions about how long she should stay.

Because he just doesn’t. I run things around here. From cleaning to what we have for dinner to house guests. MIL would certainly be welcome to visit a new baby but to stay there for 2 months? Hell no. I have my routine.

Ha - you remind me of a number of my friends that are very smart, but have spent a lot of their lives as SAHMs. They try to channel all of that intelligence into managing their households or PTA type stuff!

In case I need to say this - it’s not a bash, it’s a compliment.

Well I suppose you did pinpoint me to a tee lol. I am educated , have spent 22 years as a SAHM , and managing the house has been my job and I am very successful at it. Thank you for not bashing .

[Anonymous 3]

How dumb. I would have complete say lol. Would not happen in my home.

I don't recall asking you.

Don’t care lol. This is a message board. People post stuff then people reply. Are you

Nope

[Anonymous 6]

Quit being mean she just wants to help you. Start getting the guest room ready.
And have a great time with your MIL.

Mean or not the last thing I want is another person in my home after I just had a baby. Now they wanna come down when the little shit is tearing my house up to help be my guest lmao.

[Anonymous 7]

My mom was with us for about 5 months when my twins were born prematurely and it was a life saver.

I will be forever grateful for her helping me through that scary time.

[Anonymous 1]

My mom was with us for about 5 months when my twins were born prematurely and it was a life saver.

I will be forever grateful for her helping me through that scary time.

Premature twins is a very different situation than a full term single

In that situation I would still want my own mom over MIL

[CherryTreez]

My mil showed up at the hospital after ds was born. It was her first grandbaby. She took over doing everything. I was sick from preeclampsia and wanting to kick her out. I did laugh that ds refused to be awake when she was around. I hated it.
I refused to have her fly in until dd was 2 weeks old. It was a better visit. I would go crazy with someone at my house for months. I wanted time to spend with my new baby. I didn't want anyone but dh and our kids.