Bigger families, when did you start getting the comments?

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When I had three kids, I never got comments. When I got four I would get the occasional "they must keep you busy." Now that I have five, it seems like everywhere I go I get at least one "Wow! Are they all yours?" I don't care, it just seems interesting to me how shocking people find one more kid to be. I even went to a museum on a family pass and the person at the desk really questioned if they were all mine and tried to make me pay extra for some of them.
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I only have 2 but I used to get comments all of the time when I had 6 with me. I walked in a store when ds was like 6 months old (and I was 23) with the 6 of them and the guys jaw dropped and asked if I was done having kids yet. I just smiled and said no. My brother in law was 12 at this point so he really must have thought I was crazy.
I know a lot of families with 6 kids. As long as they don't expect special treatment because of it I don't care.
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I married a widower with 3 children then went on to have my own I was getting unsolicited comments with my 3rd.
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I sometimes get comments because I have one.
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I get it when I have three or more with me. I only have two of my own, but as the only stay at home mom in a crew of 4 families, 2 of which were dual military, with kids around my girls age, I frequently had other kids with me when I went out. It seemed strange to me that people commented on three kids.
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You're very lucky to have your kids .. like you said .. who cares what others say.
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I get it all the time. My SO had three and one on the way (didn't know about) when we met. People would give me the weirdest comments when I had these little kids calling me mom. When I had the six together people would stop me to ask if I knew how kids were made.
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I see women with 4 kids under the age of 9 or 10 and I think how lucky I am with just one kid. I'd never make any comments out loud to the family. That would be rude.
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I got comments when I had my third. Everyone assumed he was an oops baby. He took us years to have. Now I get comments asking whose kids the older ones our. They can figure out that all four are ours.

Four kids that is a lot. You need a mini van now. That's why I stopped at 3. Do the older ones raise the younger ones?

Four doesn't seem like a lot of kids to me. maybe 7 or 8.
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I make friendly banter sometimes to any mama with more than one young child, who seems close in age. Like my neighbors has 3 little ones, and I was like "got your hands full". And then I make comments if you have four or more. Are you upset by those type of comments? I don't understand why anyone would be irritated by that. It's simply a observation, that children are a ton of work! I never say anything like "you know how that happens" though...as I figure any parent understands procreation, LOL.

People make frequent comments to me, mostly at work, because I have 3, which is not as common for professional working moms, most only have 1 or 2.
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