Bm is mad our family is growing.

[Anonymous 12]

I agree that it is true that the more kids one has the less attention each kid will get. But according to original post, BM had wanted a big family, too. So if she would have been willing to have many kids, why bring negative attention to that aspect of the SM's family?

I don't really know because I don't know her.
She is hurting and it has nothing to do with you OR your husband OR their failed marriage.
She is operating from a place of fear and your life is on track. All you can really do is meet her at her level of understanding and take it from there.
Is she rude to you?

She says things to sd like the more kids they have the less attention you will get which isn't true at all. One of our children has down syndrome so she's made rude comment her.

But it is true. My sister has 5 kids and I have one of course I'm going to be able to give more attention to my daughter than my sister can individually give her kids. And you have a special needs child on top of it who requires more attention. She's not saying you can't love all the kids you have just that the more kids you have the less individual attention they will get.

[Anonymous 1]

I agree that it is true that the more kids one has the less attention each kid will get. But according to original post, BM had wanted a big family, too. So if she would have been willing to have many kids, why bring negative attention to that aspect of the SM's family?

She says things to sd like the more kids they have the less attention you will get which isn't true at all. One of our children has down syndrome so she's made rude comment her.

But it is true. My sister has 5 kids and I have one of course I'm going to be able to give more attention to my daughter than my sister can individually give her kids. And you have a special needs child on top of it who requires more attention. She's not saying you can't love all the kids you have just that the more kids you have the less individual attention they will get.

I don't understand it either.

[Eves9]

She says things to sd like the more kids they have the less attention you will get which isn't true at all. One of our children has down syndrome so she's made rude comment her.

But it is true. My sister has 5 kids and I have one of course I'm going to be able to give more attention to my daughter than my sister can individually give her kids. And you have a special needs child on top of it who requires more attention. She's not saying you can't love all the kids you have just that the more kids you have the less individual attention they will get.

We are a two-parent household. All the kids get plenty of attention. Our daughter with down syndrome doesn't require any extra attention.

As a mother of a SN kid and a child with a personality disorder, I find your last sentence to be utter bullshit.

[Anonymous 1]

But it is true. My sister has 5 kids and I have one of course I'm going to be able to give more attention to my daughter than my sister can individually give her kids. And you have a special needs child on top of it who requires more attention. She's not saying you can't love all the kids you have just that the more kids you have the less individual attention they will get.

We are a two-parent household. All the kids get plenty of attention. Our daughter with down syndrome doesn't require any extra attention.

As a mother of a SN kid and a child with a personality disorder, I find your last sentence to be utter sh*t.

Please tell me what extra attention she needs vs the other children.

[Anonymous 5]

We are a two-parent household. All the kids get plenty of attention. Our daughter with down syndrome doesn't require any extra attention.

As a mother of a SN kid and a child with a personality disorder, I find your last sentence to be utter sh*t.

Please tell me what extra attention she needs vs the other children.

You are a troll clearly but more doctor appointments and specialist appointments. A child with ds is more likely to get leukemia and have thyroid issues so they get blood tested for that very regularly. Ds children need more help with things, we had 2 children in my daughters class who had individual aides just to help them get through the day. They are also more likely to have heart and other medical issues. I know you will say your ds childs needs none of this and you will confirm up your a troll.

[nmkj]

It's not your problem she can't have babies without help.

[agander2017]

I would just move on. No need to be butthurt over someone's happiness.

Easy to say that when it's not really you. I'm sure you would be very hurt if you were her.

Probably but holding on to misery is no kind of life im interested in.

Everyone is different. I was just trying to show you how she might be feeling. It's no really misery. It's feeling like she failed in what she wanted most.

[Anonymous 1]

As a mother of a SN kid and a child with a personality disorder, I find your last sentence to be utter sh*t.

Please tell me what extra attention she needs vs the other children.

You are a troll clearly but more doctor appointments and specialist appointments. A child with ds is more likely to get leukemia and have thyroid issues so they get blood tested for that very regularly. Ds children need more help with things, we had 2 children in my daughters class who had individual aides just to help them get through the day. They are also more likely to have heart and other medical issues. I know you will say your ds childs needs none of this and you will confirm up your a troll.

None of the children are suffering from a lack of attention. I know you so desperately want to think that but it's simply not true. All the children have their own needs.

I'm just not one of those moms that whine about having a special needs child or all the appointments. Our daughter is an absolute delight. I just do what is required. I'm sorry i didn't understand what you meant.

[Anonymous 1]

Easy to say that when it's not really you. I'm sure you would be very hurt if you were her.

Probably but holding on to misery is no kind of life im interested in.

Everyone is different. I was just trying to show you how she might be feeling. It's no really misery. It's feeling like she failed in what she wanted most.

Fair enough.

[RedBottoms]

Please tell me what extra attention she needs vs the other children.

You are a troll clearly but more doctor appointments and specialist appointments. A child with ds is more likely to get leukemia and have thyroid issues so they get blood tested for that very regularly. Ds children need more help with things, we had 2 children in my daughters class who had individual aides just to help them get through the day. They are also more likely to have heart and other medical issues. I know you will say your ds childs needs none of this and you will confirm up your a troll.

None of the children are suffering from a lack of attention. I know you so desperately want to think that but it's simply not true. All the children have their own needs.

I'm just not one of those moms that whine about having a special needs child or all the appointments. Our daughter is an absolute delight. I just do what is required. I'm sorry i didn't understand what you meant.

She can be a delight and still require more attention and resources.

And you still have not answered what exactly BM is doing that is "The worst"?