Maybe it's time to let her go

[MonarchMom]

Of course he will be upset and I will be here to comfort him. I've been posting about my SO being a hoarder for years. He also has major anxiety among other mental issues. He literally will have a panic attack when he has to get rid of things or start a new routine so I know he will try to hold on to the dog until the very last min.

If the dog gets surgery she will need aftercare so that's why i asked about the recovery home, I dont expect her to stay there forever.

The post at home care would be done by him or you

That's why I'm asking about recovery centers because I'm not doing it and he won't be able to handle it.

Some Vet clinics offer boarding for animals after procedures to make sure they get the medical care and quiet they need for recovery. You may want to discreetly inquire if they offer that.

[californiagirl83]

Most lumps can be drained, and tested simultaneously. Your so has had her for I'm assuming all of her life, and may want to do this before letting her go. Leave that decision up to him, since you can't be bothered to give a sh't. Dogs aren't things you can just throw away when they get older and need more medical attention.

[Anonymous2.0]

We just put our dog (14 years that we know of) down last week. Hardest decision. My heart hurts for you.

[RealisticBeauty]

The post at home care would be done by him or you

That's why I'm asking about recovery centers because I'm not doing it and he won't be able to handle it.

Some Vet clinics offer boarding for animals after procedures to make sure they get the medical care and quiet they need for recovery. You may want to discreetly inquire if they offer that.

perfect!

[PoplarGrove]

Well, that is YOUR decision not theirs. Make sure the vet understands you want to consider all your options! I would NEVER leave that up to the vet and I would always be there to see what the options were. It could be benign or there might be something you could do for treatment. What kind of dog is yours?

She's a rottweiler and I think it's time to let her go. I just need to get my SO on board with it. He hates getting rid of things even if they are falling apart.

Dogs are not things. They're living creatures that you don't "get rid of" even if they ARE falling apart.

[RealisticBeauty]

FFS! Take the dog to the F***ing vet already! Jesus christ! If your kid has a huge growth on their body are you gonna take the advice of the morons here instead of seeking medical attention?! Neither you or your boyfriend should be pet owners.

I'm not the owner and I don't compare kids to dogs. And I agree, he shouldn't own a pet.

[RealisticBeauty]

Not sure if you meant to imply the dog is a "thing" that is "falling apart" .... He has had this dog for 14 years, and will most likely be upset either way. The dog may be in pain, and need to be put down - that may be heartbreaking for him. Or the dog may need a simple treatment and come home, and need time with him fussing over his recovering dog.

I would not assume the dog will disappear into a "recovery" home, or just no longer be a part of his life.

Of course he will be upset and I will be here to comfort him. I've been posting about my SO being a hoarder for years. He also has major anxiety among other mental issues. He literally will have a panic attack when he has to get rid of things or start a new routine so I know he will try to hold on to the dog until the very last min.

If the dog gets surgery she will need aftercare so that's why i asked about the recovery home, I dont expect her to stay there forever.

You are hollow. People don't try to save their dog because they can't get rid of "things"...she's not a worn out bedspread. People LOVE their dogs. You know, how you're supposed to love your children.

I disagree with you.

[Anonymous 2]

I made a post about the large tumor on the dog. I noticed it about a week ago and it's looking pretty bad so my SO will take her to the vet in a few hours. I know people said if it's not bothering her then its probably best to leave her alone because she is so old but now shes biting and licking it all day long.. Shes almost 14 years old so what are the chances of them putting her down versus surgery? And if she does get it removed how bad will aftercare be? Do they have something like a recovery home for dogs?

With her age I wouldn't do the surgery. I had a dog that was 13 yrs old. She had a tumor doggy version of breast cancer.. the vet didn't tell me it was risky to put her under to remove them. She didn't come out of anesthesia. I talked to another vet they told me they should have never put her under. She was to old or i should have at least been informed that it was risky due to her age.

[Anonymous 3]

Well, that is YOUR decision not theirs. Make sure the vet understands you want to consider all your options! I would NEVER leave that up to the vet and I would always be there to see what the options were. It could be benign or there might be something you could do for treatment. What kind of dog is yours?

She's a rottweiler and I think it's time to let her go. I just need to get my SO on board with it. He hates getting rid of things even if they are falling apart.

Dogs are not things... They are living, breathing creatures that he took on a responsibility for just like you did with your children. To bad he hasn't come to his senses yet and got rid of you.

[Deleted User 670]

If it's a cancerous tumor, then the likelihood that it has spread to her organs is a strong possibility. An x-ray will determine that. If it's a harmless fatty tumor, and it's bothering her, surgical removal is her best option even though she's a senior dog. They can safely anesthetize her even at her age as long as her heart is sound. Are you going to go with him to the vets?