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Unread post Thu Dec 06, 2018 11:50 am



Of a Dad making his 10 year old DD walk 5 miles to school because she was kicked off the bus for bullying?

This was the 2nd time she was kicked off the bus. He followed behind her the entire time. The road appeared safe, there wasn't a sidewalk but he was behind her driving and she walked in the shoulder. It was 36 degrees outside, which here is not bad since that's pretty normal this time of year. It's cold but not bitterly cold.

I agree with the Dad. He said his DD came home and said "Daddy, you'll need to drive me to school" and handed him the note saying she was kicked off for bullying. He chose to make her walk instead.

If I had gotten kicked off the bus for any reason, or even if I missed the bus, my ass had to walk. It wasn't 5 miles, probably like 2.5, but guess what? I learned not to miss my bus or misbehave cause I knew I'd be walking if I did. And if any of my kids did the same they'd be walking their happy little butts to school as well with me right behind them to ensure their safety too.
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Unread post Thu Dec 06, 2018 11:57 am

I think his parenting style is probably why his kid is a bully.
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pinkbutterfly66 wrote:
Thu Dec 06, 2018 11:57 am
I think his parenting style is probably why his kid is a bully.
I think so too
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Unread post Thu Dec 06, 2018 12:31 pm

Having had my kid bullied on the school bus, I am with team dad here. Teach the brat a lesson, hoping it will keep her out of jail later on. My daughter is an adult now, but her bully is in the police blotter in and out of jail constantly.
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Unread post Thu Dec 06, 2018 12:36 pm

Giving your child consequences for her actions is bully behavior?
pinkbutterfly66 wrote:
Thu Dec 06, 2018 11:57 am
I think his parenting style is probably why his kid is a bully.
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Unread post Thu Dec 06, 2018 12:37 pm

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Having had my kid bullied on the school bus, I am with team dad here. Teach the brat a lesson, hoping it will keep her out of jail later on. My daughter is an adult now, but her bully is in the police blotter in and out of jail constantly.
When my son rode the bus a girl would call him racial names and pick on him. She was punished, let back on, and went right back to it. Obviously her parents were failing her by teaching her to be racist (since they were 5 at the time) and not doing anything about her picking on my son. It was towards the end of the year so the second time it happened nothing was done about it and my son switched schools the next year when we moved.
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Anonymous 1 wrote:
Thu Dec 06, 2018 12:36 pm
Giving your child consequences for her actions is bully behavior?
pinkbutterfly66 wrote:
Thu Dec 06, 2018 11:57 am
I think his parenting style is probably why his kid is a bully.
There are other types of consequences that would be perfectly acceptable instead of this bullying tactic. Not only does he force his kid to walk the five miles, he takes a video and posts it to youtube to humiliate her. You can discipline a child without bullying.
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carterscutie85 wrote:
Thu Dec 06, 2018 12:37 pm
MysticDreamer wrote:
Thu Dec 06, 2018 12:31 pm
Having had my kid bullied on the school bus, I am with team dad here. Teach the brat a lesson, hoping it will keep her out of jail later on. My daughter is an adult now, but her bully is in the police blotter in and out of jail constantly.
When my son rode the bus a girl would call him racial names and pick on him. She was punished, let back on, and went right back to it. Obviously her parents were failing her by teaching her to be racist (since they were 5 at the time) and not doing anything about her picking on my son. It was towards the end of the year so the second time it happened nothing was done about it and my son switched schools the next year when we moved.
It was my experience that schools don't do anything about bullying. In my case, we were supposed to have a meeting with the kid's parents, they didn't even bother to show up. I told my daughter right there in front of the principal, if that little B*tch touches you, lay her out on the floor. The girl was expelled a few days later for bullying another kid. So no, I don't feel bad that dad made his kid walk 5 miles to school. One can do a whole bunch of soul searching thinking in that time.
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Unread post Thu Dec 06, 2018 12:49 pm

While I agree with the dad’s punishment, I don’t agree with adding humiliation to it. How can you teach a child not to bully by humiliating them online?
I always try to be really careful not to humiliate my children even when they deserve a scolding. I take them aside and privately do whatever needs to be done, but never in front of others, not even a brother. Humiliation doesn’t teach anything, it just hurts.
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Unread post Thu Dec 06, 2018 12:54 pm

I think making her walk was a good punishment. Natural consequences.
But I agree with you that adding humiliation to it was uncalled for. I get the whole idea of her experiencing the humiliation she does to others, but I don’t think that’s the best way to teach her empathy.
pinkbutterfly66 wrote:
Thu Dec 06, 2018 12:39 pm
Anonymous 1 wrote:
Thu Dec 06, 2018 12:36 pm
Giving your child consequences for her actions is bully behavior?
pinkbutterfly66 wrote:
Thu Dec 06, 2018 11:57 am
I think his parenting style is probably why his kid is a bully.
There are other types of consequences that would be perfectly acceptable instead of this bullying tactic. Not only does he force his kid to walk the five miles, he takes a video and posts it to youtube to humiliate her. You can discipline a child without bullying.
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